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Nadineblue · May 7, 2011, 11:26 AM

Amicon can you make it brief?

Nadineblue · May 9, 2011, 09:17 AM

Am afraid to tell my families about the divorce. What should I do.

JudyKayTee · May 9, 2011, 09:29 AM

Originally Posted by Nadineblue

Am afraid to tell my families about the divorce. What should i do.

You're an adult; you're married. You need to handle your own life in an adult fashion.

Are you worried about telling them about the divorce OR telling them about the affair/sexual relationship with the other person?

You need to be honest with everyone, including yourself.

You tell them. They react however they are programmed to act in such a situation.

Nadineblue · May 9, 2011, 11:53 AM

No I will never tell them about the other guy. But I am afraid to tell them about divorce to my husband. My husband did not treat me. No calls, no money nothing until now. The guy that am in love with, was there for me when am alone and disturbed and stressed because of my husband. Am also affected psychologically by our age difference. He is also addicted to drugs. My head going to blow but because of the new guy am fine now. Is that mean cheating?

Alty · May 9, 2011, 08:09 PM

If you're married (you could have chosen not to marry) and you are sleeping with another man, then yes, you're cheating.

You can paint that picture any way you want, but you had the choice, you didn't have to marry your husband. You did. Is he a great husband? No. But you're not trying to make the marriage work either. You both failed this marriage, it wasn't just him.

It's time to stop thinking about the what ifs, about how horrible your husband is, or how great the other guy is. Get your divorce, deal with the consequences, and start your life!

No more excuses.

JudyKayTee · May 10, 2011, 04:27 AM

You are having sex with a man outside your marriage and want to know if that's cheating? Are you kidding?

I am beginning to think troll.

amicon · May 10, 2011, 04:49 AM

The new guy-whom I thought you were not seeing anymore,has a girlfriend.

So both of you were in fact cheating.

What you need to do now is get your divorce sorted out then go get your act and your life together.

Cat1864 · May 10, 2011, 05:43 AM

Nadine, emotional cheating is not any better than physical cheating. It sounds like you were in a very vulnerable place and needed a friend. Unfortunately that friendship crossed boundaries that it should not have.

Look at it this way, the 'boyfriend' was a crutch when you needed one. You are healthier now and the crutch is a hindrance. You are ready to take steps on your own and support yourself. You need to believe in yourself.

How much does your family know about your husband and marriage? Have you told them what you have told us? If so, they may be more understanding than you are afraid. If not, be honest with them.

Nadineblue · May 30, 2011, 08:39 AM

Hey guys I decided to get divorce after graduation. Everything doing good now. Even if it had been hard for me. What is true love means for u? How can it be known whether love is true or not? Would you explain for me?

JudyKayTee · May 30, 2011, 03:33 PM

True love as opposed to untrue love? I don't think there is such a thing. It's either infatuation or love. In my mind the whole "true love," "soul mate" idea is not valid - I loved my late husband. I thought he was my soul mate. He died. I've remarried. Where does that leave my late husband?