[tsmaycumber]

Me an my boyfriend were together for two years. For 3 years before that we were best friends. I was just graduating and had a recent breakup and trying to figure my life out. I got together with him at the wrong time. He was going through a rough time in his life too. But anyway. We got together. It seemed everything was a fight but we did have good times.

There was such a good friendship there and we had a child together. The problem was I really started to control him really bad. And everything that went on. His friends really resented me for it. Nowa days he gets our baby every weekend and we were hanging out every week an a half. And hooking up and seeing a movie. I felt horrible every time he would leave like I was getting nowhere. So I promised myself after a while I could not do it anymore. So I stopped.

Three weeks went by and I came to drop off the baby for the weekend and he told me we are never going to be together ever again, not in the future.. etc. it was right after I got him his phone upgrade it was free and activated it. He told me how much he hated me and that he could never look at me the same. He can't be my friend and that we are just exs and that's how it will remain and we aren't going to hang out.

I'm just so hurt. I made a big mistake and all I want it to fix things. What do I do to get him back :(

[ken007nielsen]

If he actually utted the words I hate you, then your not going to get him back.

Instead learn of your mistakes - next time you find a guy don't treat him so badly(to the point of his friends resenting you, really?) because nobody deserves to be treated that way.

What you should be focusing about now is the fact that you have a child together, and that you have to act accordingly to what's in the child's best interest!

[tsmaycumber]

I feel like he doesn't mean it we are able to get along still I think he was having a horrible day but I don't know

[ken007nielsen]

From what I'm reading in your post, it doesent sound like you were the perfect couple. You wrote you treated him poorly and now he resent's you. Seems to me like the only reason he keeps you around is so that he can have acces to his child, and/or you giving him stuff - which isent a very ideal situation.

[Homegirl 50]

Sounds like he is ready to break away from relationship mode with you. A person can only take so much and when they have had enough, that is it! Let him go. Let him see the child and you both go on with your lives apart from each other.

[talaniman]

I doubt if you can change his mind and get him back, but you can correct the mistakes of the past, and work on being good parents together.

The romance is dead, but the responsibility is not. That's what you focus on and build on. Your shared responsibility.

On your part, your social life can no longer depend on just him. You have to have a life that you enjoy without him, with friends and activities that make you happy, when he has his child, and you have free time.

[vanheart]

"I got together with him at the wrong time"
"We got together. It seemed everything was a fight "

There you go.

" he told me how much he hated me and that he could never look at me the same"

Im not sure what happened, but you will always have a commitment to your baby. As a parent. That's all.

Don't spend false wishes on getting back as a couple.

Just be a good mom & person. Doesn't sound like either one of you were right or ready, but...
Seek out some counseling, there is some good face to face help out there. Start looking.

You will need it.

[mmresd]

He sounds pretty determined at not being with you anymore, getting him back chances are slim to none. You have made a mistake, he doesn't want to deal with it and has called it quits, so remain single and try to get your life together because you have a baby to take care of. Let him live his life and you life yours.

Good luck,
Jaci