[charlottemadden]

Recently fallen out with my babies father over something stupid! After the argument his mother came shouting and being aggressive to my door. I am 16 years old and my son is 6 month old. I don't have a problem with my babies dad coming to see him at my house, he can have him all day whilst I'm at school at mine but he won't come into the house no more. My argument is why should I let my son go down to his mothers house with him where he lives if he won't come up to see him. He won't come to my sons christening that we planned together, his family smoke and they have people in and oput the house you wouldn't trust. I don't have any problems with my babies father it's there family. I don't want him going up his house but I don't mind if he comes down everyday. If he went to court what would he likely get? He's on the birth certf, but we are not married. I do trust him, I don't trust the people who he lives with and I don't like them. Anyone give any advice of what he could get if he goes to court or what I could say to him?

[ScottGem]

First you really need to go to court to establish custody, support and visitation. But the likelihood, is he will be allowed to take HIS child for visitations.

[charlottemadden]

But why should he be allowed to take him to his house where they smoke and are violent ?

[ScottGem]

First, please use the Answer options for follow-up questions or info.

Because you CHOSE to have sex with him despite your issues about his family. When you made the decision to engage in sex with him you took on his family with all their baggage. Unless you can prove to a court they represent a danger to your child, in which case you may get supervised visitation, then the courts will probably allow him free rein on what to do with your child during his visitation.

Maybe now, you understand a little better why so many people are against teenage sex or even sex outside of marriage. You engage in sex you risk pregnancy, PERIOD! Therefore you should not have engaged in sexual intercourse unless you were prepared to have a child. Clearly you weren't.

[joypulv]

You asked what to do and were told.
We aren't here to argue your case with you or for you. That's what the court is for.
If you tell them you don't trust the family and people are in and out, you will get nowhere.
The violence is important, but you need some proof. Smoking? They can order them to not smoke around the child.

Courts won't deny either parent without evidence.

[AK lawyer]

but why should he be allowed to take him to his house where they smoke and are violent ?

Because he is the child's father. He trusts them, evidently. And he has as much right to decide what is good for the child as you do.