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megirl · May 2, 2011, 11:09 AM

I have had a crush on my coworker for more than a year... our relationship has really changed into a very friendly one... he calls me on my mobile when we are at work.. I call him as well... we text each other talk laugh...

He came to my place once and in my bedroom :) he even sat on the bed while we were having a look at the laptop... we had lunch and he left... he recently gave me two beautiful romantic videos...

I am confused about what he might feel for me... is there any chance he likes me more than a friend and is scared to tell me about his feelings? If I send him a text, he will call me... I gave him a gift and he kept it.. thank you all beforehand for your help

smoothy · May 2, 2011, 11:14 AM

Take my advice... don't EVER mess with anyone you work with.

It will get ugly at some point... and one or both of you will have to quit or be fired. In the current economy... you don't want to be trying to find another job.

I've seen many cases over the last 30 years... and have seen NONE during that time that ever worked out for very long before it got really ugly.

megirl · May 2, 2011, 11:24 AM

Thank you for your answer.. the thing is that we are good friends... we won't mess with each other... and we are free at work to date if ever we like someone.. no one will be fired or will have to quit :)

megirl · May 2, 2011, 11:25 AM

The company I work for has no strict requirements concerning workplace relationships.. as long as you do your job, that's fine

Wondergirl · May 2, 2011, 11:30 AM

Comment from megirl: the company i work for has no strict requirements concerning workplace relationships..as long as you do your job, thats fine

That's wonderful as long as a romantic relationship is going well... but watch out when it goes sour. The two employees still have to come to work each day and even work together, or at least see each other -- very uncomfortable... and then where does productivity go?

A friendship is different, but keep it at that level.

smoothy · May 2, 2011, 11:35 AM

There wasn't any company policy at any of the places I worded at either. People were asked to quit or be fired as a result of trouble that happened as a result of their working near each other after it went sour. In in some cases NEAR could be considered in the same State it go so ugly.

dontknownuthin · May 6, 2011, 01:32 PM

Aside from the workplace relationship issue, to answer your question I think it's clear he's interested in you to be in that much contact and exchange gifts and come to your home and give you romantic movies.

That said, I'd totally play the girl card on this one - take advantage of tradition and let him take the lead and ask you out. That way, if you're misinterpreting his signals, you'll never embarrass yourself over it. You can encourage his interest by being open and available if he wants to see you outside of work, and responding positively to his texts, then it' up to him to decide if he has the guts to ask you out.