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tanujohn · Apr 26, 2011, 08:18 AM

I am an indian girl whose marriage was arranged... my husband is an US citizen... documents for my visa is in process.. my interview date is yet to be fixed... but I want to screw up my interview and delay my going to US as much as possible... I am happier here... I know I have to go but, not now not yet... so messing up interview is the answer please tell me how

JudyKayTee · Apr 26, 2011, 08:24 AM

"Messing up" the interview could very possibly end your chances of ever coming to the US.

If you don't want to go, tell your husband you don't want to go.

You are lying to your husband. Why? That's a very bad way to conduct a marriage.

smoothy · Apr 26, 2011, 09:16 AM

Tell the INS interviewer you are being sold into indentured servitude against your wishes (which technically is the case if you look at it). You can be sure you won't have to go now... but also as JudyKayTee said... you likely won't in the future either. So think long and hard before you do it.

As was also said... talk to your husband.. if you can't do that... you don't really have much of a marriage to begin with.

If you can't talk honestly with your spouse... who can you talk to.

joypulv · Apr 26, 2011, 09:48 AM

Happier where, at your parents'?
Keep in mind that they may find out how you screwed up the interview, or in any event just be very unhappy that it didn't work, and suspect why.

I'm not suggesting that you make it work if you don't want to go, just that you may find that you won't be happy at home anymore, and you need to weigh all the possibilities.

tanujohn · Apr 26, 2011, 12:22 PM

Well guys its an arranged marriaged and a forced one... I'm well settled here have a good bunch of friends and I'm very very happy... he's 8 yrs older and I have no connection with him... all I want is a delay in me going to US... can't imagine going to US and living with him...
What are the questions they ask in the interview how do I tackle and them...
Don't ever go to US yehh it cool
I need to sort it out without anyone finding out

JudyKayTee · Apr 26, 2011, 02:46 PM

No one is going to tell you how to lie, how to trick Immigration/Naturalization Services. Arranged or not arranged you need to tell your parents AND your "groom" that you do not intend to go to the US.

No one here can or will help you deceive the US Government.

So stop lying to your parents and your "groom" and face the problem head on and honestly.

NYcityboy · Apr 27, 2011, 05:59 AM

If you want to delay it, you need to discuss with your husband and your parents. Do not misrepresent anything to the CONOFF or there may be visa problems in the future for you, your family and your husband.

Good luck. Many arranged marriages work out amazingly well.

lawanwadee · Apr 27, 2011, 10:12 PM

Had one client who was in the same situation. I understand that it's almost impossible when it comes to this culture issue in India.

First, you should discuss this issue with your parents and see if there is any possible venue to get out of this arrangement.

Second, I would not recommend because this may jeopardize your opportunity in the future but my client did it. She told the consul at the interview that the marriage was an arranged one and she did not want to go to US.