[xxbabyblueeyes]

Hey all!

I'm in a very complicated situation and I'd like to get opinions. Well the story is about how I fell in love with my best friend. I met brandon at my job. We had to work together and I hated him. We did not get along but I guess that's what happens when your secretly interested in someone. We worked together once a week and even though we couldn't stand each other we got to know each other. One thing lead to another and the next thing I know we are hooking up. He was on a break from his girlfriend of many years so at the time that made it OK. We continued to hook up all summer till he had to leave for college in Maryland. I live in NY. We always had the relationship as " friends with benefits" but it was never enough to pursue anything. WHen he left we didn't talk as much but we still remained very good friends. I called him when I was upset and vice versa. Him and his girlfriend got back together and it didn't bother me . I'd talk to him about my ex and he'd talk to me about his current girlfriend. He came back a few times to visit and still no feelings other then physical. When winter break came along , we started to work together again. It started as he was very very upset about his girlfriend for she had just left to study abroad for a month and a half. Keep in mind , his relationship has been on the rocks and he is falling out of love with her. A few weeks after her leaving something started to brew between us. After a short time , we were talking outside and we both confessed we were in love with each other. He told me he always had been and I just realized it out of nowhere. WE spend the remaining time infatuated with each other . He left roses on my car , sent me sweet text messages constantly and even made me 2 mix tapes of songs that reminded him of me. I spent his last weekend in his arms . I have completely fallen for him. I know what we are doing is wrong on both of our parts because of his girlfriend. I do feel low for what I have done and not the type of person to do it but our feelings are so strong that it was going to happen no matter what. He wants to be with me but he obviously had to take care of things first. His girlfriend came back 2 weeks after we confessed our feelings for one another , he dreaded seeing her but went anyway. SHe came back and confessed she was cheating on him too on her trip. Normally , this would be a good thing considering the fact he wanted to break up with her and be with me. But being the sensitive person he is the fact that SHE cheated on HIM tore him apart. Now the current situation is he loves me and wants to be with me someday but he can't do it for a few reasons. 1, because of the distance and the pain that would come with it , and 2 because he needs time to himself. I understand and I'm still being the best friend I could to him but I fell so hard for him that I don't know what to do. I know he wants to be with me too, I just don't want to wait. Selfish I know, but I'm going to school in August and we will be an extra hour apart. I don't know what I can say to make him change his mind. Distance isn't a big issue if you really think about it. I guess I will have to wait a few months till summer. Thanks for listening.

[Wildcat21]

FWB - never works. Never. Some one always gets hurt.

I don't think you should trust Brendon either frowhat you say. He wants his cake and eat it too. Sounds like a player.

[GinaLanc]

I'm no expert, but I think life was simpler when people courted each other. It wasn't instant marriage without marriage and all the dilemmas that go with it. If the guy isn't man enough to stand up for you then get on with your life and leave him in the dust. One day he'll regret his mistake but it's part of growing up. There is someone out there for you but if you're planning on going to college, go to college. It's an amazing world out there. Once you're completely satisfied with the young woman you are, then the right man will show up to complete it... and really not before.