[AkshayBadhan]

My question is this that i belong to schedule caste and my love is a sikh... she,her brothr and her father have no problem with the marriage but her mother has a very big problem with this... she don't want her daughter to be maried in other caste she want the marriage in her cast

[JudyKayTee]

That's a statement. What is your question?

[AkshayBadhan]

My question is that how can i convince girls mother for being a good choice for her daughter and tell her that caste doesnot even even matter when you are in love... this is my question how to convince girls mother..?

[JudyKayTee]

Please don't type in caps - it's hard to read.

I'm in the US, totally unfamiliar with the caste system.

How important is her mother's approval to you?

[AkshayBadhan]

Hers mother approval is very important to me because in INDIA mother is seen as god and how can I make my love to betray her god her birthgiver... It is very important to me that her mother approves our marriage because if her mother will not be satisfied with the marriage then I will held myself responsible for mothers unsatisfaction...

[JudyKayTee]

You cannot make anyone else love you, like you, appreciate you. That's the unfortunate truth. I think it's wonderful that your culture so reveres your mother. We could use a lot more of that here in the US.

Unfortunately under the circumstances I don't think you can change the mother's mind.

[AkshayBadhan]

Oh OK but any other way to be used because I cannot forget her and cannot live without her...
I am incomplete without her

[JudyKayTee]

No, I find no other way.

She either defies her family OR she does not defy her family (and hopes time changes things). Those are the only two options.

[AkshayBadhan]

Thanks lets find out how time goes up,, goes with me or oes against me...