[southamerica]

That'd be ok if the term "dating" always referred to hanging out and at the most hand-holding but it could mean anything.

That's why we're relieved to hear the original poster say that she isn't planning on having sex right now and not until she more mature.

Let's just hope that means not until she's at least 18.

[JudyKayTee]

At 13 vs 17 what you plan is not always what you get.

[southamerica]

Always wise to err on caution, and I feel that we have sufficiently advised caution to our original poster.

Right now it almost seems like we're assuming guilt until proven innocence.

I'm going to take the OP's word for it, however.

[ScottGem]

Im sorry, but the answer is wrong according to YOU. I have read the terms of use and there is nothing against giving your opinion.

The rules of this site do not allow promoting illegal activities. And there is too strong a possibility that such a relationship might yield to sex. There are also some unwritten standards that the moderators enforce. And your advice was not up to those standards. End of story.

[talaniman]

If you define dating as sitting around YOUR house when your mom is there, watching TV, eating popcorn, and talking on the phone OCCASIONALLY, then I might(?) go along with it, but wouldn't like it one bit as a dad.

But no way, even with your moms permission could I as a father allow you to be unchaperoned with a 17 year old, anywhere in the world, and wouldn't give a rats patoot whether it was legal, or if you liked it, or not.

Big difference between a 17 year old dating, and what's appropriate for a 13 year old to be dating.

And don't listen to that loony tune youngster from Canada talk to you about the birds, and bees, and what they teach you in school in sex ed. She may be entitled to an opinion, but not get her facts all screwed up because saran wrap is not birth control. There is a danger to you both, but especially you.

[Fr_Chuck]

Yes, a person has to be realistic, a 13 year old is not as mature no matter how mature they think they are, we all know at 13 they think they know everything and the feelings they get is always true love,

We also know that she is already making excuses, he is mature but yet not in a way to want sex.

We all know 17 year old boys and they are saying they don't want sex and not thinking about it, while they are in the middle of it, And of course the boy ( or girl) finds a way to justify it, and they are just doing a little not real sex and so on.

Anyone who is talking about a 13 year old doing anything sexual is just wrong, not only is it illegal but it is dangerous on too many levels emotionally for a child to be in this position.