[glitterroxy]

Im sorry if this is long but id appreciate some help and advice.

Ive been in a LDR for almost 3 years now. I have met him in real and we are amazing together, he is perfect for me in every single way and I can't imagine my life without him. He has qualities that I know is almost impossible to find in any guy and he truly is the love of my life.

Around a month ago he started feeling kind of down and it progressively got worse and worse until about 2 weeks ago he was emotionless. He didn't feel anything for anyone, he didn't care about anything or anyone and he just wasn't there. He told his mother he's depressed and she made a doctors appointment for him (which happens to be tomorrow). I usually talk to him everyday online but all of a sudden he just didn't appear online for 2 days and before those 2 days me and him were I don't know I wanted to help him so badly but he just wasn't himself. Well anyway he came online and turned to me and said I think we should just be friends. His reasons being because he is so depressed and wants to spend time on himself, he wants to get back on track and in school he is behind by like 15 assignments so he's focusing on trying to get those done and just said hopefully he gets back to a happy state soon. Im glad about this I really am but why am I the only thing that he is quitting we'll say.

He says that he doesn't want love and that its to exhausting... My thoughts have been consumed about him being with other girls now that he's single and yes Ive been physically sick a lot over it, anyway after that I said to him does that mean then that your going to have sex and other stuff with random girls and his response was I don't care, I don't plan on it I just don't want love.

Why? He still goes to school, he's trying to catch up now though. He still spends most of his time in the library either sleeping or talking to a group of guys, he still spends most of his free time playing games... the only thing he's changed right now is dumping me. He said he no longer loves me, he went from loving me to nothing, he has no feelings for me in the slightest anymore... im his friend. I don't know how to be his friend, I don't want to be his friend, I want to be his girlfriend.

Im there for him, I always will be. But I love him and I want him. But the second I say anything loving to him he's all you're my friend. Im struggling here a lot. I want him back and Im prepared to wait for how ever long it takes. I want him to be happy and he most definitely deserves it.

When I first met him he was depressed then too. I was the one who made him smile, I got him out of it, he began to feel again, smile, laugh, mess around, love, live and it was all because of me and now I'm the one he's tossed out.

Im finding it hard to accept, very very hard to accept. I feel like Ive missed things out but uhmm this is already enough, so I'm going to leave it here for now.

Please help me... im losing my mind and I'm in constant pain and cry at least 5/6 times a day and I'm beginning to not be a nice person to be around. I think I'm getting depressed now because of it.

[Wondergirl]

He said he will see a doctor about this. For right now, you have to back off and just be his friend (but stay in touch so you can find out what's happening). I know that's not what you want, but we'll hope he'll follow through with therapy and even meds if necessary. When he feels better, I'm betting you'll be back in his love life again.

[talaniman]

Back off, way off and let him deal with his demons. If his feelings change back, he will let you know, but for whatever reason the magic has changed and you have to adjust.

[mmresd]

If you love him then leave him alone so that he can fix his mental state. He may have qualities that you find impossible to find in someone else which I find hard to believe. But he also has bad qualities that I thank God for not having. Back off and do your own thing. Don't allow yourself to fall down because of some guy who doesn't know how to be happy on his own, time will heal you and sooner than you think you will laugh at how you are feeling right now. Love fades, if he doesn't want to be with you don't get on your knees and beg, show him that you are good by yourself and he might come back. However, I don't see why you would want to be with a guy that has such obvious defects.

Good luck,
Javi