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    Apr 19, 2011, 03:17 PM
    Not seen my daughter for 15yrs just in contact now what do I do
    Not seen my daughter in 15yrs, only just in contact how do I approach this situation
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    Apr 19, 2011, 03:20 PM

    We need more background here to be able to advise you. How old is your daughter? Why was there no contact? How was contact initiated?
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    Apr 19, 2011, 03:21 PM

    Can you add some more information please?

    Such as who contacted who,and why there's been no contact for so long.
    Thank you.
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    Apr 19, 2011, 03:29 PM
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    Not seen my daughter for 15yrs she's 17 now, I didn't get on with her mum and towards end of relationship it wasn't nice and she moved away and I didn't know were to start looking.Now were in contact threw fb I made initial contact and everything was going great with us emailing for hrs, but lately things have slowed down,I don't want to be pushy.What do I do?
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    Apr 19, 2011, 03:33 PM

    This is a tough one. She's 17, so she's flighty to begin with. It may be that she's not sure about how to proceed. She may be afraid to get too attached to you, only to have you taken from her again.

    Personally, I'd send her an email, be straightforward, ask if something's wrong. Tell her that you care about her and would like a relationship with her, but you want to go at her pace. She gets to set the ground rules.

    I hope it all works out and that you can finally have a relationship with your daughter.

    Best of luck to you both. :)
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    Apr 19, 2011, 03:38 PM

    Please keep all posts regarding this issue in the same thread. Posting multiple threads leads to confusion, and isn't necessary.

    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/parent...er-571482.html

    {Threads merged}
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    Apr 19, 2011, 03:51 PM

    When people reconnect after a long period they often have a lot to say, but once they catch up it starts to wane. This may be the situation.

    Does she blame you for abandoning her at all? Is she made at her mother for taking her father away? Does she have a stepdad?

    Please use the Answer options to add follow-up info or questions. Don't start a new thread or use Comments for follow-up

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