[edwinagirardet]

I met a guy at work and before I go any further, let it suffice to say we are both married, but I am totally bored (we have sex maybe three times a year). My colleague and I clearly had an attraction between us and even one of his colleagues told me how much he liked me. At the Christmas party (yes, I know, a cliche), I got rather drunk and told him how much I liked him as a colleague. He said something about his wife, and I said, "why are you always talking about your wife?" and he said to me, "and why are you never talking about your husband to me?" I got embarrassed and left. Anyhow, I left and a few days later, he came to see me, and I apologized for drinking too much and he said, "no he didn't mind what I had said to him and just wanted to know what he should do about my husband if I got like that again." I got really embarrassed because at one point he looked deeply at me and said my name three times in a very personal way. Clearly I had stepped over the line with him and he seemed confused as to what to do about it. Anyhow, I haven't seen him in a few weeks and he has resurfaced sending me an e-mail. I wrote back saying, it was good to see he was back at work and we should catch up. He wrote back suggesting a coffee but I didn't answer. Then I saw him and he said, "are we going to get together next week, and have lunch? Will you call me?" I don't know if he wants to rekindle our strange little mutual attraction, or take it to another level, or sort of just be colleagues?

[talaniman]

Very harsh

Leave this guy alone, and take your bored *** home, and deal with THAT problem.

Like boredom is an excuse to become a lying cheating... (fill in your own profane words)..!

You are worried about some married guy, and can't get your own guy to the next level?? Un-freakin-real!

[watermelon5050]

You're married. It doesn't matter what he wants. The ring on your finger means you're not the only one in the marriage. Your husband could be feeling bored too and how hurt would you be if you found out he was doing stuff like this behind your back?

[Unrequitedlove]

Talk to your husband at least try to work things out I mean why the hell did you get married if you weren't going to talk about problems. If your husband won't change then divorce him and then find a guy who isn't married. You only make things worse by cheating. Don't be the immature one and cheat; be an adult and talk things over. There's probably a reason why you two aren't having sex and your always going to be half of the problem.