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    Mar 27, 2011, 12:58 PM
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    Well, There was this girl, I knew her for ages, we hugged and I even comforted her when she was feeling down, I spent those two months trying to establish a loving relationship with her, But then she started going out with a different guy, I felt betrayed.

    (I'm 13.)
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    Mar 27, 2011, 01:28 PM

    Why do you feel betrayed? She wasn't your girlfriend. Did you ever tell her that you like her?
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    Apr 5, 2011, 07:37 PM
    First of all, you don't need to feel betrayed. You are just thirteen. If you really like her, you will wait for her. She will most likely break up with this guy in a month or two. Then just continue to be her "best guy friend". Trust me, if you want to be her boyfriend, it helps to be her best friend first. If it's meant to be, ya'll's love with have a chance.
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    Apr 12, 2011, 03:06 PM
    If u still want her back then
    Go out with a different girl it could be anyone make her feel jealous because nothing pisses off other people then seeing you being truly happy.

    And if u don't want her back
    Then be yourself find a girl that likes you because beauty isn't happiness if the other person makes you feel good then nothing matters.

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    Apr 12, 2011, 03:10 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by lovehappens View Post
    if u still want her back then
    go out with a different girl it could be anyone make her feel jealous because nothing pisses off other people then seeing you being truly happy.
    You must be under 13 if you think this is the best advice.

    Playing games never works. If you have to play games in order to get someone to date you, then they're dating you for the wrong reasons, and it won't last very long.

    Never try to make someone jealous, it will only backfire on you, and it's very mean to the person that you're trying to make her jealous with.

    You're 13, this is just one girl in a line of many to come. You will date, you will have girlfriends, you will break up with girls, and you will feel sad. It's all part of growing up. I've never met one person that met the love of their life at 13.

    You're a bit young to be dating anyway. Why not wait? Someone else will come along, trust me.
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    Apr 12, 2011, 03:15 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Altenweg View Post
    I've never met one person that met the love of their life at 13.
    I was 15... and 39... and 58.
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    Apr 12, 2011, 03:25 PM

    But you didn't end up marrying the boy you met at 15, did you? If so, you're not the norm WG, you're the exception.

    I think it's important that young teens realize that the people they're dating now will most likely not be the people they end up spending the rest of their lives with.

    I was 19 when I met my husband. I'm not in the majority either. Most people don't meet their mate until well into their 20's or even their 30's.
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    Apr 12, 2011, 03:29 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Altenweg View Post
    But you didn't end up marrying the boy you met at 15, did you? If so, you're not the norm WG, you're the exception.
    My parents said no when we were in our early 20s.
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    Apr 12, 2011, 03:34 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    My parents said no when we were in our early 20s.
    I'm a bit confused here WG. Are you telling the 13 year old OP to pursue this, even though he never had a relationship with the girl, and he's only 13?
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    Apr 12, 2011, 03:36 PM

    Agreed, I meet the "love of my life" dozens of times, * all different girls of course. They were all the "ONE" at the time.

    But you have to understand that she was never your girl friend and you expected too much for what was there.
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    Apr 12, 2011, 04:02 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Altenweg View Post
    I'm a bit confused here WG. Are you telling the 13 year old OP to go ahead and pursue this, even though he never had a relationship with the girl, and he's only 13?
    No. *sigh* I'm saying I've had at least three "love of my life" guys throughout my life, so saying you have one at 13 is a bit short-sighted. There will be more.

    Fr_Chuck "got" it.
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    Jun 1, 2012, 06:03 AM
    Just be yourself, nothing you can do about it that doesn't make you seem like a jealous head. If you feel you need to tell her than you need to but be careful, you could end up losing her as a friend.
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    Jun 3, 2012, 12:24 AM
    Maybe she went out with this other guy because you didn't make it clear enough, about how much you loved her. If you really want her then go after her, tell her how you feel betrayed and listen to what she has to say. Remember it's important to listen to a girl when she tries to speak her emotions. Or on the other hand she may have thought, that you don't really love her so make it clear that you do really love her. And finally you may have never been a love interest you may have always been stuck in the friend zone, in her mind at least, so give it a go and hope for the best.

    Good luck! :]

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