[BbJohnn78]

Hi. Let me start by saying that I took your advice on no contacting my ex in any way possible and it help me a lot. Not thinking of her at all, having new friends and dating some new girls. But I was invited to this mutual friend wedding and the X was not going as far as a knew. But yesterday I knew that she is not only going to the wedding she is sitting with me in the same table. I took it easy, I don't think I'm going to talk to her, maybe say hi like a gentleman but a lot of what if? Are coming to my mind. My friend ask her first about us sitting in the same table and she said it is OK with her, that she don't mind at all. I was the last to know about this... Any advice on how to deal with any possible situation like her trying to talk to me, me feeling uncomfortable having her near... right now I'm cool with it but I don't know how ill feel with the wedding coming up and that's why I'm writing you guys first. Im not saying she will try anything I just want to be prepared... Thanks.

[amicon]

It's been 18 months-are you completely over her?

I hope so,in which case you go to the wedding to enjoy the wedding whilst being polite but unavailable to the ex.

That makes sense,don't you think?

[Edy020]

It is best to treat your ex as a friend, than to have to excuse yourself from a friend's wedding. Obviously, if she feels that it is not a problem to sit by you, then she is fine with being around you. My question is, do you still have strong feelings towards her?

[sharper11]

If you are over her, just sit back and enjoy the wedding. Of course it will be uncomfortable, but just roll with it. Don't bring up the past! If she asks you questions answer them just like you would with someone else. If she gets into talking about your relationship, just tell her you don't feel comfortable talking about it (it's not the right place or time).

My bet is on "nothing happens" . You go, enjoy it and then continue with the no contact rule :)

[talaniman]

Put your game face on, and have fun like you're supposed to. Just because you have jitters now, doesn't mean you have to show it. Jitters are normal.

[Sumitkumar7266]

Don't feel that you are going to sit with her.Why are u so concerned about all this,that shows that u have not forget her.. Forget her and be cool.. Now everything has changed.if not for you,at least for her.. Act as she is new to you.. There will be many other friends with who u can enjoy the wedding.. All the best.. Don't even talk with her,my advice.. She did wrong with you and you should not bother about her.. Except her,Love evry human..

[sharper11]

Although you mean well, this advice is ALL over the place. "Act as if she is new" <---not possible, because she isn't. "Don't Even talk to her, she did wrong" <---- What wrong did she do? And "Don't Even Talk to Her" will make the situation worse. - - - -but please, DO love every human.

[loveher4eva]

Hmmm try not to make this wedding about her and try not to let it bother you that she is there... it is all so easy to say these things as advice but obviously you have a heart and a soul so you are going to make this wedding about her and she will be on your mind a lot of them time. The only advice I could give is put on an oscar winning performance and don't let it be known just have fun and if you aren't pretend to.

[chuff]

I'm with Tal. You have to put you game face on, and you game face needs to be that of a smiling, light joking, happy man. You can say hello, but keep it short and if she starts talking politely excuse yourself.