[ChelseyAmber]

Well this boy that I've been have sex with claims he likes me a lot and he always is talking good about me, and when we had sex a couple of days ago after he told me that he loved me and I can't get that out of my head.. I'm 13 and I know that is young but I really don't know what to do because today on Facebook I brought up us going out and he answered with a no. and I don't know what to do cause when were together nothing else matters and he cares so much about me, but over line, or phone calls he's a big jerk who seems like he is playing me... and yes I think I'm attached, he was my 1st.

Why did I get attached so easily to the guy I had sex with for the 1st time? I'm 13 and I've done it with him 3 or 4 times and I can't think about anyone else but him, I know I love him but I don't know if he honstly feels that way about me too. And he always says we can't date because of drama and of people, even though that is true I don't care what people think, I just want to be with him. Please help thanks (:

[Cat1864]

How old is he? Do you have parental permission to date? Does he?

You need to stop all contact with him. You need to stop all sexual contact with him. Just because a boy tells you he likes or loves you is not a reason to have sex with him especially at 13 years of age. If he really cared about you as a person, he would want to date you not just have sex with you.

Now, you need to be mature and talk to your parents. It would be a very good idea for you to see a doctor and get tested for sexually transmitted diseases. He may have been your first, but I have a feeling you are not his. You might also think about a pregnancy test.

Take this as a lesson to wait to have sex until you are a consenting adult in a committed relationship.

[HorrorQueen]

Becoming attatched to someone you had sex with for the first time is perfectly normal, although usually you become attatched before that. I am a little worried about the fact that he won't date you but has slept with you several times - is this guy older than you perhaps? 13 is young to be having sex, maybe the guy is worried about somebody getting the police involved if he is significantly older than you.

It sounds as though he is using you, I'm really sorry to say. You will find someone who will want to date you, but for now do you really want to be with someone who only wants sex and none of the other lovely things that come with a proper relationship? You would be better off finding someone who is willing to date you, maybe go to the cinema or a game or something, have fun and enjoy yourself. You don't want to worry about someone who is only interested in sex.

[amicon]

He's using you,what he's doing is illegal and you really must talk to your mother about having yourself checked out.

Please realise that what he does is not acceptable.

[talaniman]

He is using you, and you better get checked by a doctor for diseases. That's all he wanted was to have sex, and guys like that will say, and do anything to get it.

Your intense feelings have you attached to him and weak for him, so you better talk to your mom on how to deal with those feelings in safe and mature ways.

Sex is not for 13 year olds, no matter how strongly you feel.

[n.naz]

Honey his using you for sex... and he may be playing you...
Forget him move on date someone your own age and lay os the SEX