[alexandradrozdz]

Please help me. I've always been told by my dad that I'm painfully shy and possibly socially inept. I think he might be right, because when I try to talk to someone I don't fully know, I sometimes can't think of what to say and I feel bad and certain that I might have said something wrong. Plus,when I'm at home, I'm rather chatty and relaxed whereas at school, although I do talk, I'm most of the time so quiet and barely speak up in class. I've got a close friend who's quite like me, which is reassuring, but I want to be more chatty. Can you help?

[kaylaluv]

Take a breath before you start talking to someone you don't know that well. Even think the conversation through if you're worried about awkward silences. When you're at a loss of words just say whatever you think (as long as it doesn't sound crazy aha) or or just start a different conversation. Like hey! I love that bracelet! Where'd you get it? Something like that. Or you could go on a online chat room to work on you social skills with strangers? There's a site called omegle but I don't recommend the video chat... there are some creeps lol.
Hope this helps a little :)

[Cowgirl96]

Ok my little sis is just like you she's really shy but then when she knows you she don't shut up lol. I'm not shy but my little Sis older Sis and my best girl pal all are so here's some tips I picked up on. Practice talking with people like the cashier at walmart lol. It sounds really stupid but think about it it's great practice and builds up your convadence but if you do choke up or say something a little off the you will not have to see her again (well maybe at walmart but still no big deal) also smile at strangers when you pass it will really make you fill more sure of yourself when you do have to talk to someone (say to tour self if I can smile at a stander I can say hi to the lunch lady) also when that smile back,and most people, will you fill awesome. Also plan a conversation in your head like think of things to say a head of time like this
You: I like your shirt!
Girl in home room: thanks
You: where did you get it?
Girl: American egal.
You: oh really I love that store.
It's that easy. If there is a long pause in your conversation fill free to change the subject or nicely excuse yourself. Also practice you smile in the mirror and see what one looks best on you when you find it remember Hiw it fills so you can use it when you need to a great smile works wonders. Also your body launege says more then you know. You send signales with out knowing and people pick them up with out thinking. Slot of the time shy people don't send or pick up on signales as good as others so here's some hints. Don't leave hair in your face, cross your arms, sit when most peoples standing, stand when most ate sitting. All of this makes you look like you don't what unshy people to come up to you. Plus Google bodl language it will help. Good luck girl! And remember if you mess up sometimes it no big deal you ate an awesome person and you worth a second chance be nice to others and it will always work out. :)

[Cowgirl96]

Oops sorry for all the tipeos I really can't use a touch screen lol

[Robert93]

Take drugs.

[DaniCalifornia]

I used to be pretty shy. I recently got a job as a Hostess at a Restaurant/Club, so I have no choice but to be outgoing. Compliment people on their outfit or hair. Mention the weather. Once you establish some form of connection (Whether it be you both coincidentally preferring snow to sunny weather), it makes it easier to continue talking. If you become outgoing in other situations, you'll feel more confident in yourself, and you'll begin speaking up in class.

x Dani