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Rw101 · Apr 8, 2011, 06:56 PM

I have been with my girlfriend 3&1/2 years and we have had great fun and wonderful memories together. 6 months ago she move to uni an hour away and we see each other every 2 weeks. Do to the way terms worked out, this time we left it 3 and in the last week I had a feeling something was wrong. When she came back for Easter I could tell she was different with me so I said "you don't love me anymore do you" she's responds I'm not sure at the momennt. I hoped seeing you again would re-ignite my feelings for you. So it turns out my hunch was right.

Cut a long story short, she is back now for 3 weeks and I really don't want to lose her. How can I remind her that we are good together without smothering her? I have asked her to give it a bit of time together where we are back in a routine which seemed to work before.

One last thing, a guy from her course is constantly texting her and I asked her is she fancied him and she responded that they are just mates. I trust her but can't help but feel that him coming on the scene has something to do with it.

Please help me people!

stretch11 · Apr 8, 2011, 08:33 PM

Try taking her to places you took her when your relationship first started.. Or somewhere you know she's been wanting to go.. Tell her you love her..

talaniman · Apr 9, 2011, 11:30 AM

Time to re evaluate this relationship because obviously it's the distance between you that allows her to become distracted, and you FEARFUL. A lot of things could be going through her mind as this is a time of change, exploring new things, and learning about yourselves.

Have to say though, that its really hard with long distance relationships, especially among the very young, so what I think is you do is have that honest conversation as to where this is headed, and get real with yourself if you are thinking of this lasting forever. Sorry, I doubt it will, not without a whole bunch of communications. Fun dates are great when you are together, but its how you manage the time apart that will make or break this.

Sorry I don't have a more solid plan, other than you making more time to see her where she is, but the talking part is crucial, the way I see it.

sahar. · Apr 10, 2011, 09:11 AM

Hi RW01
I think your girlfriend got some confusion about her last life before she go to university and I do think she forgot that you have a feeling about her , so don't worry at all . I suggest you go to her university and show yourself to her classmates and ask her to introduce you to her friends.at least her classmates can understand that there is someone who care about her and they prevent themselves to get close to her.
If she really loves you , she won't leave you and if you love her do your best for her , don't let stupid things interfere your relationship.get more close to her. That's all you can do.
Be brave . Wish you all the best...

Homegirl 50 · Apr 10, 2011, 11:06 AM

Take it one day at a time. If she is not feeling the same way about you smothering is not going to help.
The distance has made a difference. Perhaps she has grown apart from you.
You may have to face the fact and move on.

Jamess Hickenss · May 25, 2013, 06:56 AM

Hey mate, I've got a similair situation, I go to a private school and we can't afford the bills so I'm leaving at the end of year 11, but she is in year 10 so she's staying for another year at abbotsholme, so I decided to talk to her about it and its just ended up worse. I really feel for you as you have been going out along time where as I feel like and we have been together for 1 and 1/3. I hope its OK between you to know, but its just good knowing that someone else had the same experience as me.