[hardtimes1]

My girlfriend broke up with me last week.I love her so much.we are both 20 by the way.for all of those 3 years we never had any arguments.if we did we would fix it sr8 away.but since xmas this year she got a new job in a pub,also she has a job in a nursing home and tech during the week.I work full time.anyway.since xmass tings wer getting bad that I hardly got to see her.I play a lot of ftball and am vry committed to it.hardly go out because I cnt drink because of ftball.lik we saw each other every night and textd everyday.but when she got this new job she was working every wkend.fri then out sat and wokrin sun night.are else going ou fri,sat and working on a sun.she started going out way more.lik every wkend.it was as if she was lukn forward to the wkend every week instead of spendin time with me.I told her I wasn't happy 2 months ago and she didn't really say anyting are change.
So 3 weeks ago she said she wasn't happy.lik when I wasn't sein her.if she said she was going out again and I new she was working the next day I would be mad and tell her can you not stay in an we will get a dvd.bu anyway.she said she doesn't no what she will do.a week when by I never sein her and she was being weird.takin ages to text me back.then I txtd her.lik what's the story are you going to finish with me.and she said no I wouldn't do that.so I started feeln better,I saw her the next night and she said everything will be OK.she had a lot of coursework and deadlines also the past 2 weeks.so she was busy doing all that.but I never saw her for 9 days and she was being weird again taking ages to text me back.so I textd her saying sumitng your not telln me what's going on.and she said I'm not happy what can I do.I wish I didn't feel lik this.I said what are you tinkn of fin wi me,n she said she's taught about it so much over and over,so I said can I see you.I when to see her an she ended it.she just told me things had changed.bu she still wanted to be friends and text everyday.the next day I textd her a message.sayin I cnt believe it and how much I love her.al she textd bac was I don't no wa to say,sorry.tings have changed.so I just said OK I'm just glad you textd back.so we kept textn as friends.bu I was crying everyday and it felt as if it wasn't hurting her.so I told her I'm takn it bad.and need time to get over this an I cnt if wer still textn.she said she understands and let me no when the time is rite,n I hope you will be OK.its now being 2 days not talking to her.I love her so much,n I did that in the hope she will realise that she's made a mistake and contact me 1st.also the day she fin wi me I told her I still love her.n she said a part of me still loves you.but I still tink she loves me of all the good times we had.what do use tink.I don't start ringing her and askn to meet up so I can tell my feelings.are do I need to get on with life.this is tough for me.bu I no there will be tougher things in life but I cnt get her out of my head an was shocked when she finished with me.I couldt believe it.I just really tink she wants to enjoy herself an go out al the time.bu she didn't need to finish with me.sorry for th elong message I appreciate any response

[talaniman]

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I know you are use to text/chat but since I couldn't read this thing I won't respond other than say move on its over, leave her alone. No texts, calling, but you can cry your eyes out in the privacy of your own home, and then get up and keep on trkn.

Sorry for your loss.

[Sumitkumar7266]

Talaniman is ryt.. U just leave her alone.. Now she is enjoying her new life.. One day if she will not get the care and love,what she used to get then she will come again.. but you should not believe her now.. Without any reason,without any fighting if she is leaving you,that means she don't care about you.. She don't love you.. She told a part of her is still loving you,that and all are just dialogues to reduce some pain of you.. But I will say enjoy yourself like she is doing and don't feel for her.. A new girl will come for you soon.. Take care

[hardtimes1]

Sorry about the text/chat.I just can't understand it.I am accepting it a bit better now but would take her back right away.but only if she came to me,not me begging her to get back with me.what would be the point.she wouldn't be happy.I just can't see how she changed all of a sudden and couldn't tell me why she's leaving,after all we where with each other 3 years and she left by saying I don't no things have just changed.surly she could go into detail.

[talaniman]

Don't expect details, you seldom get them nor will understand them, but I have found these thoughts, and actions that lead to a break up start a long time before they find the actual courage to dump a partner.

Feelings seldom change over night and one thing for sure is the partner who gets dumped, is usually the last one to know. Doesn't sound that fair, especially if you're the one that gets dumped, but that's the way some humans operate.

Understanding may not come for months, or years, or not at all so don't dwell too much on the why, but accept what is.

[amicon]

Whereas you're shocked and it seems incredible,the dumper has been working themselves up to this for some time;so they're able to walk away seemingly unperturbed.

At the end of the day,it doesn't really matter why-what matters is
How you handle yourself,healing from the breakup and putting your life back together.

Keep busy,be good to yourself and be around people you like and love.