It is a good idea to browse around a site like this before posting. Had you done so, you might have found this sticky:
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/family...st-364259.html which would have, at least partially answered your question.
No you can't file for abandonment because abandonment is not something you can charge someone with in most places. Abandonment may be used a means, but not an end. The thing is you HAVE an end and that is your husband adopting your daughter. That's what you need to go for and concentrate on.
The problem is despite the father's lack of contact, you will still need his permission for the adoption or make an effort to get it. This is where the abandonment comes in. If you do not know how to contact him, the lack of contact may work in your favor to get a court to approve the adoption without his permission.
The bottom line here is you need an attorney to prepare the adoption permission. The attorney will walk you through what you need to do and prepare the paperwork. So you NEED to find an attorney now and start the process.