[thaah]

Me and my boyfriend have been going out for a while now. I use to get phone calls from guys and that would piss hm of. So this one time when we were having lunch this guy called me and damn he was pissed and we broke up because he thinks I'm cheating. Within a space of the break up he found a girlfiend. So we got back together and the problem is that he says he loves me but doos not trust me and does not know how he will ever trust me again. How can I get him to trust me again and leave the other girl. I love him and want to be with. I know I lead him to break up with me but now I have learnt from my mistake...

[martinizing2]

You can't make someone believe you.
That is up to them to do based on your actions
And interactions.

Did you discuss the other males calling ?
Or just fight about it?

But as it stands now,
He has a girlfriend and you should back away.

The lessons learned from these mistakes can be applied to your next relationship.

[thaah]

We speak everyday and he tells me he loves and misses me. I will not let him go because I love him. The day he tells me he wants nothing to do with me than I will have to back off. As for trust ja your right I can't make him trust me it is up to him. But I have learnt from my mistake and I would love to spend the rest of my life with him. Wish I can forsee the future *sad*

[thaah]

We speak everyday and he tells me he loves and misses me. I will not let him go because I love him. The day he tells me he wants nothing to do with me than I will have to back off. As for trust ja your right I can't make him trust me it is up to him. But I have learnt from my mistake and I would love to spend the rest of my life with him. Wish I can forsee the future *sad*

[J_9]

You may not have been cheating. But he IS. Right now he is cheating on his girlfriend with you. The question here is: should you trust him?

[I wish]

I find it ironic that he can't trust you because he suspect that you are cheating, but he's the one who's actually cheating.

Sounds more like he doesn't take you seriously. I think it's time for you to be serious and move on from all this.

How old are you?

[martinizing2]

Right now he is cheating on his currant girlfriend with you.
Unless he is telling her that he is talking to you and still
Tells you that he loves you.

Cheating is a clandestine relationship when
You are suppose to be in a committed one.

Is that OK with you? Doesn't it maybe mean that if
You do get back together he will still be seeing the
Girlfriend he has now?

Iy is not uncommon for people to do this, keep
One at the house and another on the side for a
Place to go when you are having trouble with the other one.

You could save some self respect and dignity and get
Away from him now.
It is not going to be any easier after he keeps
You hanging on thinking you may be getting back together

It will prolong the pain and make healing that much harder.

It is a very hard thing to admit it is over when you still
Feel love for him.
If we could turn off emotions life would be much easier.
But we can't and that makes us hang on to a dead relationship.

He is gone. It is over. And if he did come back it
Would not be the same and it never will be again.

You need to concentrate on you and getting healed.
No contact. Move on , and begin the process of putting
Yourself back together in reality.