I'm down

gdheart88 · Apr 5, 2011, 11:06 PM

I have been dating with a man for nearly 2 years. Recently I found out from the dating website where we met, he wrote he has been searching, wondering and pondering, it's not meant to be, so be it... " did he refer to we are not meant to be? To be honest we have great disparity in term of age, education, social status, financial background, nationality... when I found out he is still searching and flirting with girls online... I feel very hurt. I feel like to end my life... to me relationship is very important. Without work I still can survive, but without love, I have this tendecy to end my life. Lately I have been thinking how to die...

Alty · Apr 5, 2011, 11:57 PM

Have you talked to him about all of this? Have you asked him why he's still on the site searching for someone when you two have been together for 2 years?

If he is still searching then it's a good thing that you find out now. I know it's upsetting, but it's not worth ending your life over. If he's this much of a cad then you don't need him. This isn't love.

I would talk to him about it first. There could be a logical simple explanation for all of this. But, if it ends up that he doesn't love you then move on, find your strength to carry on, and then meet someone else, someone that will love you as much as you love them.

I wish · Apr 6, 2011, 10:15 AM

Sounds like he's not yet ready to settle down in a serious relationship with you yet. You obviously have different expectations going forward. It's time to clear the air with him. You can't force him to get on the same page as you, but you can talk to him to see how far off you guys are to see if you can work something out.

liongal · Apr 6, 2011, 11:56 AM

There is NOBODY worth ending your life for...

Totally agree with the advice above.

God Bless

redhed35 · Apr 6, 2011, 12:03 PM

If you can take a step back and look at the bigger picture here, your talking about ending your life because of a situation your still unsure of... that is a bigger issue then what he is doing or saying.

Don't rely on someone else for your happiness or sense of self.

My advice is to seek professional help to get you back on track and away from destructive thoughts.

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