[Sam13524]

Okay, first of all sorry if it's kind of long.

This year, I told myself not to get into drama. But then a guy asked me out, I said "No" cause I didn't like him. A month later, that guy doesn't get over me. And I end up meeting a guy that becomes my bestie. I chated with him everyday. Smiled and laughed with him. I was happy to be with him :) He is a really good guy, and I ended up liking him more and more.

He went on a trip, Came back with a girlfriend. I was okay with it. But one day, he kept asking me who I liked. I ended up telling him "You"
Then, he explained to me. How he was Going to ask my out, when he got back from his trip. But then this girl asked him out, and he ended up liking her. I cried that night. :/

The next day, I didn't want to talk to him. I can't look at him anymore. I ruined our friendship and everything.
A week later, still never talked. Nothing, he's acting like he doesn't even care.

Also, his girlfriend. She's trying to change him into a person he's not. He won't do the things he loves to do thanks to her. And it's hurting me a lot inside. I want him to be able to be himself, if she likes it or not. I like him so much, I already ruined everything between us and I don't want to give up on him. What should I do?

I ruined everything, all those happy times we had. It's like they didn't even happen to him. I need advice on what I should do. Please, I don't want to give up on him.

[amicon]

What did you ruin?

He went away and returned with a girlfriend.

You were friends,not dating,so you must accept he's with his girlfriend.

How old are you?

[adviceishere]

This is going to hurt... but if he liked you so much he'd of felt you were worth the wait and kept himself available after his trip. You can't hate this girl and blame her for his odd behaviour...

Take my boyfriend for instance... all his friends hate me, and you know why? Because he doesn't go out and do drugs and drink with them every weekend anymore! They reckon I have him wrapped around my little finger, but its just that he has now discovered more things to enjoy other than going out and getting wrecked, like watching movies, going for dinner etc... if they cared so much about him they'd be happy he wasn't getting himself wrecked. So he's after distancing himself from them a lot!

So anyway what I'm saying is, your not going to do yourself any favours by hating his girlfriend, she hasn't done anything wrong and if you can find it in your heart to try and still be his friend and hers then he will always be in your life...

[Sam13524]

The thing is, he's really pervy. And that girls super pretty. He also told me "Being with someone for over 18 hours at once, can change someone" Cause he went on a trip with a group.
Also, I don't hate his girlfriend. Were okay friends :) I never met her, but we chat on Facebook a lot.
And that's not what I meant by "Change" It's like, asking her her favorite color. Then him saying it's his too. Even if he hates that color. It's not her fault, I know that. But he's doing it because of her respond, to what he really likes. Or something. Also thanks for the answer :) Just had to correct that I don't hate her.

[Sam13524]

I ruined the friendship between us.
Now were both acting like we never met. :P

Also, 14 and ahalf.

[talaniman]

You ruined nothing, you just got caught up with a guy who fell for someone else. That means you will have to back away from him, and let them enjoy themselves their way, while you focus on enjoying yourself with other friends.

Hurts for sure, to be disappointed when you were expecting better things to happen, but it happens to us all, we cry, shrug, and get beyond it. No way is any of this your fault, he is the one who changed his mind and made a different choice for himself.

[Sam13524]

Easier said, then done. Since he's in my group -.-''
Anyway, I'll try. Thanks :P

[talaniman]

Never said it would be easy, but it still has to be done.