[mtmorris]

My girlfriend of 3 years since sophomore year of high school broke up with me via Facebook chat. Low. But we go to different colleges now and first semester went great but two weeks after winter break. She wanted to end it. She called me a few weeks later and said she wanted it to get better because we were both truly best friends. She would text me thriuggt the semester saying she missed being best friends and missed me. The day before she broke up with me she told me she loved me in a Valentine's e-letter she sent me with a gift. Just a cool mug with famous mustashes. I liked it. I'm going to her school next year. Not because of her. But spring break I went to visit the school and we agrees to talk. It didn't go well for me and she said she wanted to be done for good but still wanted to be best friends. I don't get it. She said she wants to grow up and the feelings weren't there. She has changed so much and I think her new friends influenced her. She already kissed another guy but she kept persisting that it didn't mean anything. The guy even said there was nothing to it and they were just drunk. Everyone tells me she made a huge mistake breakinup with me, even her old friends from high-school. Do you guys think that over summer she will realize what she's done? She s/ays she lovs me and she was bawling her eyes out when I left her dorm. Do you think this is temporary? We've done so much together. Everything back home is correlated to her in a way. Even when I said I need time to get over her she kept texting me once in a while saying she missed me. Thanks all sorry for the length. What should I do? I want to not text her and make her miss me and realize what she's done. I am devastated and miss her so much and am still in love with her but I want more than just friends. Any advice or similar experiences?

[Wondergirl]

If you read this board, you will learn that you are not the first that this has happened to.

My advice is to move forward and do No Contact.

You are part of her history, but she is looking at the future, and you are not in hers.

[amicon]

Sadly,this happens to most of up,and though breakups suck,we get over them.

Go no contact -make a start on movinf forward with your own life.

[dwidrick]

As already stated I think the best thing to do is move forward and focus on just getting yourself back to a point where you are happy and active again. I am in a similar experience where my girlfriend of 2 years and I are apart because of improperly handled situations with college.

All I can say is that she may want to be with you down the road, that is what my ex says she wants, but thinking that only makes it harder to move forward. And to look at it from another perspective... if you do get through it and she does decide she made a mistake this summer, you will have a better viewpoint on the situation and have a better idea of if it will be worth taking her back or not... instead of where you are now, basing you decisions more on emotion than anything else.

Hope this helps some... good luck

[talaniman]

Go back and read the posts in relationships that start with a break up after three years that started in high school and ends the first year of college.

As hard as it is to accept, your life has changed and you are on your own, and after a proper healing you will see this as a blessing in disguise.

For now, my advice is for you to bow out gracefully, and be unavailable while you heal, and rebuild a life for yourself that makes you happy with new friends, activities, and family that you look forward to being with, and sharing a great time.

As you do your own thing, and let her do hers, you will see how much opportunities, and option there are in the world, and won't be stuck on someone who is no longer stuck on you.

You are not alone, all of us had to go through this break up experience. Sucks big time don't it?? But it makes us better, if you can believe that.

What you thought your growing pains were over? LOL, expect more, and you won't be shocked when they happen.

How's that for a kick in the pants!!