[vexxx]

OK so I meet this girl I recently meet, I end my last one due to complications and moved on to this girl. We had sex hanging out etc, I got so caught up, I made a rap, and asked her permission to post it, she said no. So I deleted it but with my luck it got posted by accident. When I saw it, she texts me told me to take it off. I had no idea till like the morning. I went into panic I deleted it but she saw I felt bad.
After that she told me I was pushing her away a lily bit.

Now its been 3 weeks everything was good, she also talked about her last relationship and how she got treated bad but they remain friends. I just got a text saying she really likes me, and says its not fair that she thought being with me would get over her ex faster so she says that she's not ready for a relationship, and just wants to be friends, but says she still wants to **** around sleep overs and all that. She also said she wants to be with me and wants me to wait, I'm willing to.

She also told me she thinks it best that her ex are best of friends, and I told her its cool with me, but when he found out he started texting her. She said he was sending her mix signals, so now I'm scared. I really like her, and I want to be with her. I've given her time and willing to go all the way to be with her.

I agreed with her and everything, but I got a strong sense that I'm a fool for love. When I called her and talked about what her text was about I told her maybe I should go date someone else, and she got mad, and said why would you say that. I told her cause I want to be sure that your not going to go back with him or find someone else, she ensured me she wouldn't, and that she not like that.

In my experience I have gone through bad relationships with girls, and I don't want to be ended up hurt. I promised her that she's the only one I want to be with, and only have sex with, and promised to wait. Am I stupid or a fool, or am I really making the right moves? I like this girl cause she knows how's to treat a man, and is not like any of my exes. I also told her I don't keep in contact with them. So she knows there would never be a problem. I'm confused and lost and all the advice I get is to take it slow. I get that, and I want to do that for her.

Today, we chilled, didn't touch or anything, and when I left we hugged, and didn't kiss. I really felt crushed, but I know its best to take it slow, she's a Gemini, and I'm a Libra both really compatible signs, sorry for the spelling I really need strong advise.


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[amicon]

Why wait for somebody who has a long way to go healing from her breakup?

Someone who's still not over her ex,and who is using you as a backup plan and a shoulder to cry on?

You deserve better than this,find someone who doesn't come with a ton of baggage and who doesn't have a jealous ex texting her.

[vexxx]

Easier said then done thanks though

[amicon]

Re your comment,I understand where you are coming from,but I would advice you to put your healing first-by doing things you enjoy,being with friends and family and get your life back on track again.

Time's a great healer.

[talaniman]

You are right, you are being a fool for love and allowing her to run her program, that works well for her since she has no official ties, attachments, or commitments to anything concerning you or her, or anyone else for that matter so she is free to jiggle, and juggle in whatever way she wants to, while you dangle on the line waiting, and hoping for whatever she gives you.

I strongly advise you leave her alone, and do your thing the way YOU want to, just like she is doing, and stop being an option for her.

Amazing how she can be jealous when you think its best that you see others, yet when the script was flipped in the situation with her ex, YOU got dumped and put yourself on hold. How fairs was that.

I know leaving her alone is quite hard given you care so much, but she doesn't care as much as you do, and that's why you go do your thing without her. Deep down you know this ain't working, and will never work while your life is on hold waiting for her to make you a priority, and not just an option.

Your own priorities are all screwed up, and only you can change it. Not her.