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qwerty15 · Mar 25, 2011, 12:26 AM

Hi I'm 15 and I need some advise on how to tell my parents something's. I messed up really bad I got involved with some people who I though were my friends but now I'm not sure they really are. I kove my parents but I'm scared to tell them they will be really disappointed,I don't want them to think badly of me but I need help and I don't know who else to turn to except my parents I've been using drugs and I feel as if its taking over my life I've been doing some really stupid things to get money now I'm scared of what's going to happen but I can't seem to stop because I need to get money. I just don't know how to speak to them about it I thought about it lots and I don't know how I can tell them I know I should just tell them but when I try to talk to them I just know its going to be bad

amicon · Mar 25, 2011, 12:47 AM

Drugs do that,they take over your life and you lose yourselves.

I think you tell your parents asap,they love you and will help you get over your addiction-if you let them.

qwerty15 · Mar 25, 2011, 01:02 AM

I just don't know how to tell them, what to say, I can't imagine just saying mum dad I can't stop using drugs it just doesn't sound right. I don't know how to tell them

J_9 · Mar 25, 2011, 01:05 AM

How about...

"Mom, Dad, I have a problem. I need your help."

qwerty15 · Mar 25, 2011, 01:45 AM

It sounds so simple but its not that easy I've tried to tell them but I know its going to be bad sometime I think maybe I don't want to tell them because it will make them mad at me and upset, or maybe I'm just making excuses to keep on doing what I am I don't know my head is so messed up. I think I just don't really want them to think of me in a bad way, but I can't keep on doing this I know its going to end up bad if I do. Maybe I should just go see a doctor instead of parents

amicon · Mar 25, 2011, 02:40 AM

What options do you have at school?
Yes,a doctor or a counsellor-but you really need to get some help,right now.
Take care.

adviceishere · Mar 25, 2011, 03:09 AM

Either tell them now or let this spiral more out of control and let them find out for themselves, when there's a point of no return! Of course they will be upset but what parent wouldn't! All they will want to do is help you and protect you from more harm, they will be shocked, or maybe they've been suspecting something all along, but you will get a hell of a lot more respect if you tell them yourself now before its too late, and absolute hats off to you for being brave and seeing and admiting that you need help! This is an amazing step in the right direction and it's the beginning of the road to recovery.

qwerty15 · Mar 25, 2011, 03:43 AM

I want to tell them I'm just worried my dads been really sick, he had a heart attack two moths ago, I don't know if I tell them he will get worse and I know they will be upset if I tell them what I've been doing probably get really angry to. I feel really bad I know they exspect more from me I don't think they have any idea what I've been doing.This is just so unbeleivably hard maybe I can just do this myself if I stay away from my friends then I won't be able to get the stuff. I feel so ashamed of the things I've done I just feel like I should tell someone and maybe my parents aren't the best people. I don't know I fell so confused at the moment, I want them to help me but I don't want to hurt them

amicon · Mar 25, 2011, 04:07 AM

All your feelings are normal,shame,confusion etc-but admitting that you have a problem is the first step to recovery,please take the second step by telling someone close to you.

Tell your mum first if you think your dad's still fragile.

Imagine the relief you will feel once you have shared your burden.

qwerty15 · Mar 25, 2011, 05:17 AM

I pretty much lost all my real friends when I started hanging out with these people I thought were my friends so I don't really have anyone left I thought about talking to the counselor at school but I don't really want to tell them that I slept with my dealer for drugs I mean I know its suppose to confidential but they will still look at me like I'm a you know, and there probably right. I can't even imagine telling my mum the things I've done I really need to do this but I don't think my parents are going to be able to deal with this I think if I go see my doctor maybe he could give me some advise

adviceishere · Mar 25, 2011, 06:05 AM

Once you tell someone that's the main thing! Tell your doctor, and no one would think badly of you for sleeping with your dealer, when I just read that you slept with him for drugs the first thing I said to myself was "this is serious and she really needs help" I didn't think badly of you I promise and I'm a complete stranger. Please tell your doctor! I wish you all the strength in the world.

amicon · Mar 25, 2011, 06:38 AM

I agree with advice,and I don't think badly of you either.

Please honour yourself and make an appointment with your doctor and get the help you deserve.

southamerica · Mar 25, 2011, 06:48 AM

I absolutely agree with everyone here. I know you're scared of how your parents will react, but like was said they will do everything in their power to protect you and make sure you get the help you deserve.

Heck, if they ground you, that would be a blessing! It would keep you out of trouble :) I wish you the best of luck and I'm very proud of you for realizing what you need to do. The next step is doing it.

qwerty15 · Mar 25, 2011, 03:18 PM

I made a doctors appointment but I have to wait until next Thursday their always so busy. I think maybe I should just tell my mum. Can I ask you how would you react if it was ypur child telling you, I was just wondering so maybe I'll know how she might react. I don't want to tell her but I don't thjnk I can wait that long for the doctors I can't help it I tried to stop using but I cant.

Wondergirl · Mar 25, 2011, 03:28 PM

"Mom, I love you and know you love me. I need your help with something very serious."

adviceishere · Mar 26, 2011, 12:34 AM

Originally Posted by qwerty15

I made a doctors appointment but i have to wait until next thursday their always so busy. I think maybe i should just tell my mum. Can i ask you how would you react if it was ypur child telling you, i was just wondering so maybe i'll know how she might react. I dont want to tell her but i dont thjnk i can wait that long for the doctors i can't help it i tried to stop using but i cant.

Just out of curiosity what drug is it that your using? I guess if I was told my daughter was on drugs I'd be distraught, disappointed and most likely in shock for an hour or so before I spring into action

amicon · Mar 26, 2011, 12:50 AM

I would be sad and upset,there's no denying that.
Then I would get you the best possible help as quickly as I could.

Let us know how it goes.

qwerty15 · Mar 27, 2011, 11:03 PM

I've been using cocaine quite a lot. I went to talk to mum about it but she was having a bad day she was quite upset about dad having to have anither operation because he's stint they put in his heart or something is blocked I don't know anyway I didn't think it was the right time to tell her.I don't know if it will ever be a right time to tell her, I think ill just try and work this out on my own.

amicon · Mar 27, 2011, 11:22 PM

I still say,talk to her,you're going to need help.
Are you in the UK?
Does your GP have a drop- in clinic?
If so go today.

You can do this,but get help.

adviceishere · Mar 27, 2011, 11:47 PM

Originally Posted by qwerty15

ive been using cocaine quite alot. I went to talk to mum about it but she was having a bad day she was quite upset about dad having to have anither operation because hes stint they put in his heart or something is blocked i dont know anyway i didnt think it was the right time to tell her.I dont know if it will ever be a right time to tell her, i think ill just try and work this out on my own.

Hey there's never a good day to tell someone your on drugs, you can't do it on your own you already said that you couldn't in another post. I don't know what person could do something like that alone, as amicon said, go to your doctors if your not going to tell your folks. But I urge you to tell them!