[cdad]

i think you will find 'sex' is a natural thing Scott.
&yes i had sex at a young age but i had sex on my 13th birthday after i had been with someone for 4months its not like i went YES its my 13th birthday lets have sex with any guy out there i lost my virginity too someone that ment/means alot too me and label me as what you want because iknow for a fact i am not a slut.
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and basically your labelling anyone that 13+ and that has sex as a slut i will think you will find most 13 year olds are having sex nowa days.
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I guess your getting your information from the boys. Its not accurate at all. The average age is 17.


First time sexual intercourse


New study finds teen girls regret having sex earlier - insciences

[ScottGem]

First, while teen sex rates are too high they have been declining and I think you are way off when you think "most" 13 yr olds are having sex.

Second, I know sex is a natural act, but its something that is shared between two people that are in a long term relationship and are deeply committed to each other. At 13 a 4 month relationship doesn't qualify. But if you had just stopped there I might have thought differently. But you didn't When you broke up with this boy you proceeded to have sex with several other boys by your own admission. In fact, so much so, that you can't be sure who the father is! That, my girl, indicates a slut. You can lie to yourself and fool yourself, but other people can see the truth. And if you don't change other people will see you like that. I'm sure the boys are telling their friends about this easy lay they found.

[bethanyjaynee]

Ok then but all I'm saying is most girls in nottingham where I live are having sex from ages 13 and that's no lie I think a my school there's another girl in my year with 'twins' and 5 year 10's with children!
It wasn't 'several' by the way it was two other people.
Oh and at 13 a 4month relationship is really good in my eyes.
&im not even going to lie I was drunk at this party which is why I had sex with someone once againg myfault for getting drunk at the age of 14.
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&iknow it isn't a easy option an abortions a big thing and iknow that which is why right now I'm not too sure if that's what I want in my life.
I'm still confused and unsure on what I'm doing I just want to breakdown and cry but I've got too be stronger then that this is a majour thing and I never thought I'd be in this situation at this age but I am and there's nothing I can do now.

[Wondergirl]

Ok then but all im saying is most girls in nottingham where i live are having sex from ages 13

Don't these girls have parents??

[bethanyjaynee]

Of course they do.
But I guess when your having sex at that age you wouldn't tell your parents.
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I did tell my mum when I lost my virginity and we had a big disscussion about it and stuff and I did get grounded but my mum did see my point of view of that I felt I was ready and I felt special with who I had sex with.
My dad didn't take it so well he didn't go mad or anything he just got upset and I didn't see him for a month.

[cdad]

Don't these girls have parents?????

Sure they do and they live under bridges. Im starting to believe the OP is a troll.

[ScottGem]

Ok then but all im saying is most girls in nottingham where i live are having sex from ages 13 ...im not even gonna lie i was drunk at this party which is why i had sex with someone once againg myfault for getting drunk at the age of 14.
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Nottingham has a population of almost 3/4 of a million people and you are going to tell me you know more that half the teenage girls in the area? Maybe half the girls YOU know are having sex, but the overall numbers are much lower! It just means that you run in the wrong crowds.

And sure a month relationship is good in your eyes. But you are a child. An immature child who knows little of real life.

And the fact that at 14 you are going to parties where you get drunk just proves that. It also help spell S L U T!

[bethanyjaynee]

I will think you find I live in a real nice house 5 bedroomed two kitchens conservatory dinning room living room cellarx2 3 bathrooms.
'not a BRIDGE'
And I can assure you my friends live in nice houses too.
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And the what's the OP?

[cdad]

ofcourse they do.
but i guess when your having sex at that age you wouldnt tell your parents.
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i did tell my mum when i lost my virginity and we had a big disscussion about it and stuff and i did get grounded but my mum did see my point of view of that i felt i was ready and i felt special with who i had sex with.
my dad didnt take it so well he didnt go mad or anything he just got upset and i didnt see him for a month.

Im amazed that this one place is alone in the world at beating the average consistently. Sounds like an epidemic to me.

Average Age at first sex by Country

[bethanyjaynee]

Aha.
You have ovioublsy never been too 'Nottingham' I'm not onnabout 'Nottinghamshire'-Thats the posh part where all the stuck up little *****es live.
Nottingham is the Town Centre Running From Saint'Annes-Meadows now TRUST me in NOTTINGHAM there are about 5 well known schools I have over 20friends that are girls in each of them five schools and I can guarantee you that you could ask any of my friends and they would say pretty much every girl form year 9-11 are having sex,In fact the only girls that arnt having sex are either asians or 'goody' people.
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&the whole I'm a slut because I've got drunk at a party is aload of **** its called having fun with your friends'celebrating'a special occasion!

[cdad]

BBC - Nottingham - People - Life as a teenage mum

[DoulaLC]

You obviously feel you are grown up enough to have decided to be having sex from the time you were 13, knowing full well that it could result in pregnancy, so now it is time to act grown up and make a decision. If you can't talk to your parents about something this important, you are not ready to be having sex... plain and simple.

If you want a baby, can afford to take care of a baby, and provide properly for a baby, then have your baby. If you can't, then consider letting a loving couple adopt your baby or have an abortion. You will have to make a decision about abortion pretty quickly as you will need to go through the proper steps with your gp. They will strongly encourage you to confide in one of your parents.

[Wondergirl]

the whole im a slut because ive got drunk at a party is aload of **** its called having fun with your friends'celebrating'a special occasion!

Isn't it illegal where you are? Where were the parents? Who bought the liquor?

YOU are the OP, and "living under a bridge" says more about your attitude and behavior than where you sleep at night.

[bethanyjaynee]

Iknow that sarah girl.
She went too my cousins school.
I used too live in bulwell too.
And my cousins and my mamma live in aspley!-.-
Now do you believe me when I say most people are having sex young in nottingham?
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DoulaAC
You have some good suggestions but I'm not sure if I'd be able too carry my child then put her/him up for adoption I really dont''/

[bethanyjaynee]

Your meant too be 16 with an adult too buy alcohol where I live.
21 without.
&we get our own money and then buy the alcohol from a couple of cheap shops where I live,no ID needed because I look older then I am so they just pressume I'm 18/19 n let me off on the 21 with ID.
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&i always have sex in my own bed or in my own house thanks never 'under a bridge'.

[Wondergirl]

&i always have sex in my own bed or in my own house thanks never 'under a bridge'.

Where is your mum when this is happening? And it may as well be under a bridge for all the class it has.

Why not raise your baby while your mom is raising your brother or sister? You can share stuff.

[bethanyjaynee]

so basically your saying I have 'NO class' hm okay then.
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&im not sure the whole sharing things I don't think it would seem right at all my mums like 7months pregnant now and I'm 12-13weeks it doesn't seem right at all when you think about mother and daughte being pregnant together it doesn't seem right at all!
the more I think about 'MY' baby it makes me think I want too keep it but then I'm not sure too much will happen if I do!baby,school=bullying.
its still a massive decision and I'm still not sure.

[bethanyjaynee]

And when I'm drinking and stuff my mums normally at work or at home or gone too friends,holiday etc.

[Wondergirl]

so basically your saying I have 'NO class' hm okay then.

Where's the class?

doesn't seem right at all when you think about mother and daughte being pregnant together it doesn't seem right at all!

No, it doesn't, does it. But there you go!

You will have to tell her, even if you get an abortion.

[bethanyjaynee]

What exsacclay do you call class?
-not having sex until youv'e left school or something?
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&no it doesnct seem right which is why if I keep my baby I will move into my bestfriends house with her older sister I've already been offered a room there I've just got to sort stuff out with my mum.
&if I had an abortion I wouldn't have too tell her!-id go with my best friend she's been there for me since nursery so I would count on her seen as I was there for her when she had a miscarrage.