[baileygirl59]

I am insecure due to fear and jealousy, fear of abandonment.. my suspicious nature ends up causing relationship problems and pushes them away. I admit to having a rough road in life, no father figure, role model, lived in over thirty two homes from birth to eighteen years of age. I have been molested, raped and cheated and lied to and have had too many disappointments.

I have standards of morality that when a man views soft porn or porn of any nature that is what I define as lust and should be avoided. But society is claiming an audience so profound of indulgent behaviors that are becoming normal and acceptable.

My current boyfriend gets texts sent to him from crude jokes to explicit soft to hard core porn pics... He is a truck driver and gone on the road allot. I am offended and hurt by this. I asked him to do something about it and he said he asked them to stop, the texts kept coming and he ended up lying too me about it for months but I had suspected he was still getting them and he would get so angry if I asked about it. He said he was just protecting me by hiding it.

There are many pretty women everywhere and I know that some of its unavoidable, I feel threatened, oddly I am somewhat attractive myself but so insecure. I feel he's looking and I am sickened by it. I am over reacting. I guess I am sick of men drooling at every opportunity.

Am I overreacting to his accepting these pics as okay? He claims that he does get off on them. Which is hard for me to believe he doesn't get some thrilled sensation. Hard enough him being on the road and in hotels all the time.

And my boyfriend says he never masturbates, is he lying? Don't all men have too?

[J_9]

The question is... who is he getting these from? A male friend or a female friend?


Why is this under the Crime category? Do you think not masturbating is a crime?

HAVE to? No, they don't have to.


I have moved your question from Crime to Relationships since this has nothing to do with criminal activity.

[baileygirl59]

Sorry, it would not let me choose from a proper category,such sexual health, relationships..

[baileygirl59]

Cell phone texts dirty pics... I guess a few problems with adding a comment occurred. To your question about whether from male or female. I believe just from male friends a couple of them get pretty amused by sending them to other men friends as well.

[Fr_Chuck]

First he is most likely scared to tell you he masterbates since he does not want to fight about that also.

The issue here is that you can not, nor should try to push your level of morality on him. Not sure what you define soft or hard porn, but many men watch it, and it does not mean they are cheating, in fact, many may watch it on computer and never consider cheating.

But if you start ordering him not to watch this or that, or get texts from other truck drivers he is going to start lying to you about it, making sure his phone is wiped clean before coming home, and soon, after getting tired of having everything he does, questioned will just find a new girlfriend.

I would advise getting professional help dealing first with your own issues of mistrust, and learning that in a relationship you share, and have to learn to either accept some things the others do, or find someone only that does it your way

[baileygirl59]

Don't know why computer would not respond , so I am trying again. I ended up answering (shows above your question) here. But let me try to submit this reply. (see if it goes through)

[talaniman]

If he is doing all that you think is wrong do you expect him to change, and feed your insecurity, since I doubt you believe him any way. Considering your attitude it would be easier to lie, just to keep you from going off on him, as why should he answer to you for what he thinks is just amusement.

And no most guys don't have to masturbate, but they do because they want to. I understand life is rough, I really do, but don't take it out on your partner. Ease up why don't you since you know your insecurities do causes you problems in your relationship. Perhaps some therapy to unload your past baggage would help?

[baileygirl59]

I appreciate your answer. I had been in a marriage with a man who had and openly admitted he was an sex addict and he openly mentioned how it progressed to other behaviors etc.. Thing was he had to really manipulate the penis allot and long time to get erected and sadly used mostly porn and not his willing wife! I am divorced, guess it really opened a bigger can of worms.

[J_9]

Cell phone texts dirty pics....I guess a few problems with adding a comment occurred. To your question about whether from male or female. I believe just from male friends a couple of them get pretty amused by sending them to other men friends as well.

Male friends huh? Well, no biggy then it's just a joke and some fun. You should be concerned if he's getting pics from women.

[LuvUbaby]

A guy I was dating was a trucker drive he wanted me to sen dhin naked pic's I refused. I think my Mr. Wide Load Driver had other women on the side, I dumped him. If it's random pic's who cares my g/f's send me silly junk all the time.