[Gouki88]

First off I'm 21 and I attend a community college. Ever since the beginning of the Spring semester I met this girl in one of my classes. And I have completely fallen in love with her (or I feel what feels like love for her). She's smart, she's very nice, she's pretty and she's short (I love short girls) and she, like me, is a language lover. Even though, I've only known her for a few months I've realized that she is different from the other girls that I've met in school. The only thing is that I haven't told her how I feel. She mentioned to me in conversation about her boyfriend's mom and her job. I can't remember what topic that was. But anyway, that's how I found out she has a boyfriend. It's hard to tell if she is just nice to me because that's how she typically is with everyone (a very nice and friendly person) or something else. I haven't asked for her phone number because up to this point I didn't have a phone. But I will obtain it from her the next time I see her. Should I tell her how I feel? I can't stop thinking about her and I want to let her know my feelings for her. Whenever we talk she often compares me to her boyfriend, which to be honest, am unsure how take that.

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The bottom line here is :
She has a boyfriend.
She's not available.

She probably is a nice,friendly person,who sees you as a friend.

No,don't tell her.

[talaniman]

She is giving you all you need to know to not press beyond friendship, my very young friend. If you cross the line of friends, whatever you get will be entirely your doing.

You should have the good common sense to know that helping someone cheat is no way to enjoy dating, and maybe you could take the hint and be a gentle man, and seek romance elsewhere.

Must be your first. No guy messes with a female who has a boyfriend, unless he is looking for trouble, drama, hurt feelings, or cheap thrills. Which one are you going for?

[cantbelieveyou]

Just ask yourself, "will you regret it at the end?". This question has helped me out a lot through life.

[ITstudent2006]

You have received very sound advice up to this point and I encourage you listen to the 3 posters above.

I leave asking you one question.

"Do YOU want to be the reason for another's heartache?"

That's exactly what will happen if you intervene into a relationship that's not yours. Someone (including yourself) will get hurt (emotionally) in the end at the hands of your greediness.

When life is good... don't complicate it.

[Gouki88]

I've decided to stop pursuing her. And to let anything and everything between us as friends and nothing more.

[J_9]

I've decided to stop pursuing her. And to let anything and everything between us as friends and nothing more.

Very good idea! Many women like to have men as friends, and nothing more. When we mention our boyfriends we try to let you know that we are taken and are not interested in a romantic relationship.

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Good choice and good luck.