[rosemcs]

You are right, "asking" (posted above). It is exhausting to have kids, go through a horrible time in your life, and try to have a new relationship. You have seen her at her worst as I remember from a previous post. She can't really be herself right now, because there are too many things to think and worry about.

She also may not be in love with the idea of being "in love" with anyone right now until she has more time and energy.

[upandgo]

Same thing happened to me about six weeks ago - says she needs time to deal with her feelings of inadequacy and confusion - needs to be alone until she feels proud. We met six weeks after her separation and six months after mine - neither of us have experienced a love like it and it has been over two years but it has hit the rocks - I tried to be her friend for a while, which she said she wanted, but realized last week that I'm just setting myself up for an even bigger fall and that if she wants me in her life it's all or nothing. I'm curious as to how your own situation is shaping up - I want to get past this constant heartache but it's digging deep at the moment...