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sunny_frens · Mar 8, 2011, 10:02 PM

I started dating this girl when she had broken off with her ex a month back. And she sounded very firm on her decision of not turning back to him though they were still friends and had some common groups they belong to, so they would see each other at least once a week.
So things started working out between this girl and me and we were getting close enough to spending a lot of time together or over the phone or texting. We would be together on most of the weekends and have an amazing time in bed too. To an extent that she even introduced me to her mom, dad and her sister. But she would never answer my calls or mention about me when her ex would be around her. But would honestly tell me if she was going to meet her for some reason.
And one fine day, after a weekend when I was away, she tells me that she is comfused and needs a break to clear her head. So we took a break for 2 weeks and then she msged me past Friday saying that she liked everything we did together and was looking forward to getting closer to me BUT she has decided on giving one last shot with her ex!!
Now I don't know what to think or what to do? Though I did reply to her text saying that it is totally understandable and hope things work out for them... but what about me?
Why would she get back to her ex specially when in a relationship of 1 n half yr, for the past 6 months they weren't even acting like a couple and he wouldn't have the time for her and she was the one who decided to call it off... and on the other end, we both were everything that we ever wanted our partners to be... so why would she leave me for her ex?

amicon · Mar 8, 2011, 10:58 PM

So she started dating you right after she broke up with the ex?

That makes you the rebound and even if she was the one to break things off,she clearly wasn't over him as they are now back together.

What about me you ask,well,I think your now ex rather used you.
You were there as a new ready-made relationship for her to step into,but when she decides to get back with the ex it's adios amigo!

Go no contact with her and tough as it may be chalk it up to experience.

talaniman · Mar 9, 2011, 02:22 PM

Well doctor, that's what happens when you take in a hurt, wounded female, nurse her back to health, and she gets strong enough to do her thing again. Hope she appreciated it, but your patient is gone, because she no longer needed you.

That's what happens when you give your heart to a stranger before she had proved she deserved it or knew what to do with it.

That's what happens when you get so emotionally involved with a stranger that just got out of a relationship.

That's what happens when you deal with a female who still has her ex as a part of her life when they have just broken up.

Not knocking you at all because to be honest, I learned the same lesson you just learned, the same way that you learned it.

What about you? You heal and move on and never forget the lesson you just learned. And please don't fall for her crap again.

ken007nielsen · Mar 9, 2011, 05:41 PM

And was looking forward to getting closer to me BUT she has decided on giving one last shot with her ex!!

I Feel like saying enough said.

Look forward to getting closer to you, but she's going to try one more time with her ex.
I don't really do capslock but ''I WOULD NEVER SPEAK TO HER AGAIN''.
Can't think of any scenario where I would accept being her number two choice..