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aclaire · Feb 28, 2011, 06:35 PM

I am an 18 year old girl, new on the dating scene. I was with the same guy for 5 going on 6 years when we suddenly broke up. I'm not looking to get into another relationship any time soon but just recently met a guy who I became interested in and who is also interested in me. The problem is that he's 28, ten years older! Is this too old? Even for a bit of fun?

Cat1864 · Feb 28, 2011, 07:17 PM

At 18, you should be old enough to make up your own mind.

I will caution you to be careful that you both have the same definition of fun. If you live in the US, make sure that you don't cross any legal lines like underage drinking because if you get caught it can be bad for both of you (especially him if he supplies the alcohol.)

I'd also stay away from sex until you get to know him a lot better. It's when you least expect it that Nature tends to add complications to our lives.

Good luck.

I wish · Mar 1, 2011, 10:30 AM

I would say just be friends. If something romantic develops over time, then go ahead. The age gap is definitely significant, considering you are still a teengaer, so there's no reason to rush into anything so quickly. Just enjoy the time you spend together and see where that leads.

Tnovak74 · Mar 1, 2011, 11:48 AM

I'll be optimistic here. What kind of fun are you looking for? Drinking, party's, sex? To be blunt, he's 28 chances are he has more money than you and other guys your age, he can spoil you and buy you things take you places you couldn't go before. Yeah, that would all be fine and dandy and fun. But WAIT, there's a catch, he can get into clubs and bars and drink, he can (like Cat1864 said) get in major trouble if he gives you alcohol or gets you into a club your not to be in.

Not to mention he's getting older, maybe wanting more than just "fun" he may want a relationship and settledown. You could wind up hurting him really bad.

If you hang out and want to have "just fun" as far as seeing movies, playing miniture golf or something like that, make sure he knows, how you feel about relationships right now, get that out of the way so no broken hearts or feelings interrupt good times.

aclaire · Mar 1, 2011, 04:07 PM

I'm actually from Qld Australia, so I'm at legal drinking age. I actually met him outside a club... I don't mean fun as in drunken sexy nights. I just mean fun as in getting involved with him at all. He's a really nice guy but he has 10 years on me... he's asked me to coffee a couple of times now and I'm hesitant. Our conversation might not even gel because he's got 10 years on me. I don't know what to do...

Fr_Chuck · Mar 1, 2011, 04:43 PM

Let me see you are 18 and have been dating him for 6 years, so you were 13 when you started dating a 18 year old.

Perhaps you are too old for him now ? And he wants someone newer, or the two of you have just grown apart in where each of your life are going. And perhaps he is tired of being asked if that is his daughter

aclaire · Mar 1, 2011, 04:59 PM

Ah no. my boyfriend of 6 years was one year older than me...

I wish · Mar 1, 2011, 08:14 PM

Be friends and see where that leads. No need to think so far ahead since you barely know him. Just get to know him better first.

talaniman · Mar 7, 2011, 08:23 AM

Being young, and recently broken up, and not looking for a relationships, having fun is the thing to do. Why not, but if your hesitating because of his age, then maybe it would be wise to give this a lot of thought before you get involved with an older guy.

No telling what's on his mind, and he is a stranger to you. More experienced and you have no clue what he is really like.

Eyes wide open on this one, because your idea of fun, may not be his. I would be very wary of older guys you meet at clubs, or bars anyway.