[Bibes]

So I know this guy for two years. We work together. We have been in a lot of fights. We will hang out, laugh, and few months later we get in fight. And what I have realized is that after we spend too much time together I get bored of him, like I want to get some rest and not talk to him till the next day. He is such of smart person that's the kind of personality I want my husband to have, but physically Im not at all attracted. We have this thing insight us like we miss after fights, and because of it I think I might be in love with him but I don't want that. I consider him and call him best friend, and I just don't want anything more then that with him. Im scared that after saying I don't want to be with him, I might end up been actually with him. Right now we talk and had the last fight like month ago, and right now I think I grown up and that we will not get in fight and that we will talk. I haven't been in a such a situation like this one and *** let me know what you think

[ken007nielsen]

It sounds like you do love him, but as your best friend.
You pointed out that the both of you had insight on each of you, this tells me that you two really know each other.

If you don't want to be with him, why are you scared of being with him? If you don't feel that way about him - just don't engage in relation with him!

And also, you get bored with him if the two of you spend too much time together. Then just keep the distance, make sure that he only see's you as a friend.

[Bibes]

See I thought if you are in love with somebody means you are crazy about him and think every second about him, and never get bored. We had distance but then get together and then fight and get together all for two years and in those two years I never wanted to kiss him or hug him he does. I was with another guy for 6 months and then when I broke up I started talking with this guy from work again and I cried to him about my ex and stuff, and then fight again and now again we are talking.

And yeah we know each other very very well but I'm not scared it just indescribable feeling, everybody things that we are together and there is nothing in there except that we hang out alot(bc we have a lot to tell)... and I can't engage a relation because I don't want to kiss him that's all.

[ken007nielsen]

That is only in the beginning that's not love, that's infatuation.

But if you don't want to have a relationship with him, just don't.. I don't see any danger in you two being friends. But be sure to be very clear towards him about your feelings so he doesent get his hopes up, or try's too much time to work out osmething with you.

[talaniman]

Just stay friends, and don't worry about that relationship junk with him. You are probably still healing from your last relationship, and so your feelings are still rather raw any way. So enjoy your friend, and be glad he is there for you in your time of need. No need to ruin a good thing.

[Bibes]

Thank u talaniman good said