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    sachinmalik Posts: 3, Reputation: 1
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    Feb 25, 2011, 01:44 AM
    I am in a huge dilemma, please help.
    OK am going to sound like the culprit here.. But here's the story!

    I have a boyfriend we been together for exactly one year. I thought I was in love with him but now I am extremely confuse. OK my boyfriend and I work together.. how it all started: 5months ago I became friend with this new guy who just started working we have this chemistry thing going on like I never came across someone I can connect with so well and on everything before so my boyfriend didn't like that and told me to stop talking to him so I did. But at the beginning of January my boyfriend went on holiday oversea and its for 2months. Somehow me and the new guy became friend again we started hanging out and same thing we just clicked and now he confessed that he's in love with me and because I have a boyfriend he said he will wait for me as long as ever to be with me and until I believe that he is actually in love with me until then he won't talk to me. I mean he's even cried for me he's like my best friend. I just don't know what to do. Now my boyfriend is coming back in a week I don't know how to deal with the situation please please please can someone give me some advice I am confuse to bits.
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    Feb 25, 2011, 02:02 AM
    Hello unknown friend, it seems that you are travelling in two boats at a time. First of all it should be very clear in your mind that to whom you want most in your life. Who cares for you more. Who actually loves you more and with whom you will find all your hapiness and then go with that guy only.
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    Feb 25, 2011, 02:37 AM
    Thanks a lot for your advice but to be honest I am really really confuse.
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    Feb 25, 2011, 11:46 PM
    You have a boyfriend. The second fellow is being a gentleman, and not going any further than telling you he's interested, but, he knows you are not available.

    I don't see what's so confusing here.

    You have to decide if you want to stay with your boyfriend, or, end that relationship, and start a new relationship with the second guy.

    You can't have both.

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    Feb 28, 2011, 08:22 AM
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    There is nothing to confuse dear, you have to select the better one & if you are confuse that who is better between two of them, then you are the only person who can help you bcoz its your life. The guy who can give you a better future (means life) select that only.
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    Mar 1, 2011, 10:00 PM

    Don't be confused, or distracted by the attentions of two guys you work with, one being your boyfriend. Just keep things within the boundaries of good behavior, and keep your actions honest.

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