[Debbiesneeds]

We have been together for about 2 years now. When we first met he did touch me sexually, but for the last year or so he has touched me only once. I have told him how I feel about this I have even written him a letter letting him know how much this bothers me. I take care of his sexual needs and he does masturbate a lot. But he does have erectile problems, he has tried all of the meds but most of them give him such a bad headache he doesn't like to take them. Sex is not that important to me, it's just I think I need to feel desired and wanted by him. He is not my first and I am not his. I even try to say sexual things to him and he acts like he doesn't hear me. I really am wondering if he is gay? We love each other a lot. But I feel like his mom not his girlfriend. He also gets jealous if I talk to or about other men. Does any one have any answers for me?

[joypulv]

You take care of his needs, but he doesn't touch you? Oral sex with no reciprocation of any warmth or intimacy? I would be out the door, but you love him, sigh. He isn't interested in talking about it, but what about getting a testosterone level? He may be puzzled by the desire in his mind (hence lots of masturbating) but the difficulty with the actual physical ability. Didn't the doctor who gave him 'all the meds' (Viagra, Cialis?) do a testosterone level?

If it's not physiological, then it's time for you to ask yourself if you want to put up with a man who is so self centered and stubborn about macho stuff that he won't get therapy.