[snow12345]

Is my fault I atract these types of men?
Am 22 this **** been going on for years now. Constantly same types men. Either their verbally abusive, temperamental, or just think with their ****.
I had gap year decided to forget men concentrate on work, try to climb career ladder, hobbies. Change my dress sense, try to be bit more classy. Build confidence self esteem, and when I do improve in confidence and self esteem other man comes along and ruins it. Always the same. Men who see in town who give impression they ain't pricks didn't give me time of day. But men who just nasty piece work do.
Now feel like living on ratio oh. That's 4 men this year who turn out to be horrible, hey the next one I like who comes along got to be descent. Its been like this since ever
I always walk away from them in end because am not going have sex with any of these men. I've been verbally abused , told am slag, and had water from bottle chucked at me from one man.
And whacked in face from another.
Now am just fed up I do concentrate on other things in life, but made changes and when I start felling better about myself another man comes along and treats me like ****. Now just don't trust men in General one man said you always be on your own, because everyone just looking for **** and if you was to then maybe descent man would come . I know its isn't true. But this starting feel like sick joke. Am not bad person, so why is all these men like this. My mum say its because their illiterate . Feels like every year repeated in terms of men

[ken007nielsen]

It's not men in general, but it's certainly not your fault.

It's the individuals fault.

You should learn about the little red flags. I'm guessing they didn't start being complete idiots, but they changed gradually, and it became worse and worse. Be sure to ask for the check and then get the hell out of there.

Since those men have similar traits, I am wondering if they have other things in common.
In what environment do you usually meet these men, and what is your criteria when selecting your man?

[redhed35]

Is it your fault, well yes in a way.

Your accepting them into your life before you get too know them.. you took a gap year, that's a great idea, but when you decided to date again, as the previous poster asked, where did you start? At the same place?

Dating is about getting to know someone before any relationship takes place.

You say you won't sleep with them, again, good for you, you have set a standard for yourself.

What hobbies or interests do you have? Do you have a wide circle of friends? Letting them and your family know your available to date may help and they can vet the guys and will know if they are nice guys... in the meantime, just find your own happiness and confidence, get on with your life and surround yourself with positive confident people, it won't take long before your gut feeling kicks in and you will be able to tell the jerks from the geniune guys, in fact the jerks won't make your rader, as mostly they have low self esteem and confidence issues.

Those type of guys won't even bother with a strong confident women... because she can see right through them!