[anees.n]

Assalamu alaikum

Sr I am just 15,in my mind many girls came but atlast I saw one girl I loved her without knowing her becaz I was afraid that allah may punish me so I didn't.even though I thought that I won't love any other girl ,when I went 2 my home land another girl took place but afterwards I got she is not good,I really felt remorse that I forgot my first girl-according to me she is very good,daily 5 prayers,she is totally sacrificing herself for ALLAH.I need 2 marry her in future.wat can I do?? I am continuosly praying 2 ALLAH but I am afraid 2 say 2 my parents.
Regards
Anees

[Jake2008]

This is not an easy question to answer, and I admit my ignorance of your religion.

The problem sounds complicated to me.

Is it possible for you to visit with someone in your church who can advise you?

[AbuBakr_Fin]

Wa 'aleikumus-Salaam.
What a fine age to marry. I married my wife when we were 30, and we both whish we had married at your age. But I can tell you none of us can ever -swearing by Allaah, Who is upon His Throne- love anyone as
These feelings come and go, especially in your age. It`s good you turn to Allaah. Don`t worry. He will show you the right way, when always you make Salaat al-istikhara, and you don`t have to worry about parents either, because they are not outside the control of Allaah, are they? When you are well established in your Deen first, then you are ready to marry. Marriage means you are taking a responsibility for others, not only fulfilling your needs. The Prophet -sAaws- told different reasons people marry, and he -sAaws- advised to marry for Deen, and because her conduct pleases you. Also you should see her and she sees you, and don`t be forced, and don`t have high expectations. You have mistakes, and she has mistakes, believe me. You are both children of Adam -as. So you will see each others mistakes too, and have to learn to advice, and overlook, and forgive. Try to calm down your emotions, because you need sabr in marriage, as well as in everything else.
As for what I said earlier about seaking firm knowledge of Deen:
You can go to www.salafitapes.com.
You may learn much, in sha Allaah.
Try to get hold of MuHammad Ibn Abdul-Wahhaab`s -may Allaah have mercy upon him- books, and you will find all the basics you need. All he wrote is:.. and the evidence is The saying on Allaah -Ta`aalaa-:...

[AbuBakr_Fin]

... I was going to say: none of us can love someone with such love that a SaHaabii -rAa- has loved Rasuulullaah -sAaws- with. You should understand that. Love is not in our hands, and that kind of love, my brother, we cannot imagine. But please study Serah and listen to lectures about how Nabii -sAaws- was with his wife's, and how they were with him. It is very beautiful.