[cordal]

I'm 17 years of age and I've always dated girls and slept with them to.ive recently had a sexual experience with a guys twice now .but I don't enjoy it, I just did it at the moment.ive evaluated myself and id never go there and do that again, but something in my head make me want to do it again.I have a girl friend and she means the world to me, I love here and I find girls soooo sexy, but I don't understand.I watch porn to get off, but I find gay porn more exciting and it turns me on more.what does this all mean, I really think girls are hot and amazing what should I do?
Could all of this just be a stage or is it just something teen go through ?

[Cat1864]

cordal, I am going to say that you need to stop having sex or sexual encounters until you work out your relationship issues.

You have a girlfriend who you claim to love and that she means the 'world to [you]', but you are playing games with other people. That isn't love. That is confusion and has more to do with your morals than your sexuality.

If you can't stay faithful to her, leave her, work on your inner issues, and then find someone who you can stay faithful to.

Forget the labels. Learn to accept yourself.

[cordal]

Thanks but how do I find myself ? :)

[love_1235]

You have mant different horomones at this age,

The point is, is this is your sexuality.
You may like both men and women. Perhaps Bisexual?
Nothing is wrong with anything you are doing..
You have strong feelings for your girl friend but get pleasure from men.

[Cat1864]

Nothing is wrong with anything you are doing..

I have to disagree with the quoted statement.

1. He is having sex while under 18. I hope she is at least over the age of consent for where they live.
2. He is cheating on the girl he says he loves.
3. He is risking his health and his future.
4. In many places it is illegal for him to be looking at porn.

No, I do not live in a cave. I do understand what teens do, however I cannot tell someone that 'nothing is wrong with anything they are doing' if there actually is.

cordal, you don't have to have sex to explore your sexuality. If you are in a relationship with someone you love and want to be with, then the labels and other things don't matter as long as you don't act on them. Cheating is wrong no matter what the reason or how far it goes.

Sexuality is a very complex thing. It is also something that we have to be very careful in exploring. There are many boundaries that should not be crossed-both legally and morally. It is okay to be attracted to both women and men. If exploring it is a stronger need than being faithful, then get out of the relationship and date both males and females (you don't have to have sex to know if you are attracted to someone.) If it isn't, then stay with the person you love. What you think about during your 'personal time' does not have to be explored at any other time. Fantasy can stay fantasy.

The thing to remember is that sexuality is a part of you. It is not all of you and shouldn't define who you are as a person.