[zepnrose]

I have known this girl for 6 years, and we've been really good friends during that time. It's no secret that we like each other, but when I started to ask her out, she was always sketchy with her answers. When I asked why she wasn't willing to go out, she said that she isn't looking for a relationship. This girl is amazing, she's everything I'm looking for; looks, brains, athleticism, personality, and time is running out. We're both juniors in high school, and senior year is approaching fast. I don't want her to rush into something just because I need it, but time is of the essence. I'm constantly torn, if I give up, I don't think I'll be able to look myself in the mirror. If I try to wait out the storm, I might miss the boat, and I desperately don't want that to happen. I need advice, I've asked myself the same questions for too long. I swore I wouldn't resort to the internet, but desperate times... I need help, any fresh idea would be valuable. I'm one step away from blockading her driveway until I get a date (exactly, it's bad). Thank You!!

[halata1871]

Don't expect to get thoughtful answers if we're just resources in desperate times haha!

My dude my dude.. I feel like I've met you, talked with you, and compared stories with you. If there is 1 word to describe this attitude you have, it's NO. Personally, I would take the precious time you have left in high school and spend every last second of it on the only person you're leaving that school with and that is YOU. Workout, hobby, and study hard. Build yourself as much as you can in all aspects. The game of high school is where cooties become my mom is going to drive us to the movies. Seeing as you will not get this girl to date you SIMPLY because (say she IS interested) logic tells her it won't last past much into college. This is where our stories would become the same.

I say use the rest of your HS days to improve yourself because college is to high school... as high school is to middle school. College makes high school seem like the kiddie pool. You are on your own and so is everybody else. Freedom of decisions no matter how illegal or frowned upon. Save yourself the pain, energy, and waste of time and if you want to date to get xp under your belt, date around your high school, without getting too involved in a relationship.

Now stop, before you say you know she likes you, I'm calling bluff. If a girl you have been friends with for 6 years merely makes you think she likes you.. chances are you're looking through a tainted window. There is the "obvious" behavioral answer/reason that she either 1) doesn't like you,sorry haha or 2) she is on the prowl for another guy.

I say this because like you, everyone else realizes the closing of the high school career so everyone like you is scrambling to top the cake, this is no good. The happiest lads will be the ones who improved themselves and polished their armor so to speak for the majors.

Good luck, high school dating is usually troubled waters, and chances are you don't get this girl, and that's a good thing. You may not see it now, but going into college a lone wolf gives you an opportunity to game at all the girls who are just getting over end of high school breakups as almost all high school couples do. (Did it). You'll learn it.

[talaniman]

Geez guy, She has told you nicely every time it ain't happening. Keep pushing, and then you will see how much time you have wasted with some one that just ain't interested. At least not the same way you are.

Handling your rejection better, because blockading her driveway will get you a lot of talk behind your back, but NO DATE!

Then what!! Who wants to date a guy who still is trying for a girl that keeps telling him NO, all the time. Thin about it, everyone knows you like her, and everyone knows she won't date you, so what's the point??

Leave her alone, and get use to being without her, because you don't understand just friends do you?

[ITstudent2006]

The above posters have answered exactly how I would have. I just have to ask you a question.

Why are you so desperate for this girl?

You say it's obvious she likes you? I think it's obvious she doesn't.