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    slicktee12 Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Feb 23, 2011, 06:02 PM
    Straight and falling for a girl
    I have never felt this way before about any guy let alone a girl. I have been with guys all my life and now I met this chick that I believe I have fallen for. We have been friends for 2 years now and within those two years we have been kissing and fooling around. I never really told her how I feel until now. But I had no idea there was another girl in the picture. She and her are dating but they argue all the time. She will come to me for comfort and when the girlfriend is not around her and I act as if we are a couple. She doesn't hide it either. But when the girlfriend is around she won't talk or hang out with me. The girlfriend and her have only been together for a couple weeks now but she tells me she isn't happy with her, she is happy with me. She also says she doesn't want to end it because she doesn't want to hurt the girl's feelings. I know I should move on but it truly is difficult. I live with her and I see every time her girlfriend comes over. Plus we are all on the same team together as well. Truth is it is making me miserable but I don't want to let her go. What do I do?
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    clafairey Posts: 153, Reputation: 46
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    Feb 23, 2011, 06:28 PM

    I suggest you give her an ultimatum. It is completely unfair on you and the other girl that she is "having" the both of you, and very selfish and insensitive. Tell her how you feel and that you wish to make a go of it with her but NOT if she is still seeing the other girl. If she says no, don't lower yourself and continue as you are at the moment, you are worth more than that. As for the living arrangement and being on the same team, it depends how well you could cope with sticking to being strictly just friends as to what you do about this one. X
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    talaniman Posts: 54,325, Reputation: 10855
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    Feb 23, 2011, 10:52 PM

    You are being played by a big time player. She enjoys both worlds, and if you can't handle it, and it sounds like you can't, then you better watch yourself.

    Players who try to play with you makes me mad, and I hope it does you too!
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    Feb 25, 2011, 01:23 PM
    You know the right answer, you wrote it a few times. You have to let her go, especially if it is making you miserable.

    Just like any relationship, if there is someone else in the picture, why even pursue it. Will it make you feel comfortable knowing the person you are involved with doesn't mind cheating? I personally would not like that being in the back of mind.

    I suggest moving forward and get as far away from the drama as possible.

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