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angel_eyes_1212 · Feb 22, 2011, 08:07 PM

I live in Michigan me and my baby's father were never married and split 2 months ago he had a new girlfriend in a week. She has 3 children of her own which have been taken away before for drugs. She also does not have the best repputation for her flusey ways. My ex has a room at his dads and my son sleeps in that room in a playpin, she had spent nights there with my son in the same room and my ex has become unreasoable and only wants my son when its covenant for him. Last week he walked passed me with my son and said look at what a ***** your mom is and I don't want my son there any more if my ex does not straighten out his pirorities and does not speak ill of me in front off my son or allow this woman to be around my son? Can I do that? What are my rights?

smoothy · Feb 22, 2011, 08:11 PM

If you want him to GET a court issued custody order that might get him partial if not full custody.. try that, but you might not want to push him into filing for it. You have everything to lose and little to gain.

You have nothing to say about who he dates... any more than he does about who you date.

ScottGem · Feb 22, 2011, 08:21 PM

Without a court order for custody and visitation you can try denying him visitation. But if he decides to go to court, the likelihood is he will get scheduled visitation.

angel_eyes_1212 · Feb 22, 2011, 09:40 PM

I want him to be able to see his son but I can't let him see him until this situation can be resovled like adults and he is very unreasonable right now He is acting like a completely different person. Before he would have done anything for his son all of a sudden his piroties shifted when he met this woman I feel the situation over there is a negative one for my son and if he is willing to set bonderies and act like the father he usto be I would love nothing more for him to see him

ScottGem · Feb 23, 2011, 04:34 AM

First, may I call your attention to the guidelines for using the comments feature found here:

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/feedba...ure-24951.html

Please learn to use this site properly. We HAVE to make judgments because we rarely get the whole story. True we don't know you, sop we have to go by what you told us AND use our knowledge and experience to make judgments. You owe smoothy an apology!

Second, this is the Family LAW forum, Answers here need to conform to existing law and laws are not always fair. You asked what your rights are. But you forget that he has rights too.

Having your son sleep in the same room is not that big a deal since he's very young. Talking you down to him is not good, but a court will tell him to stop it, not use it to deny him visitation.

Now you said he wants to keep it out of the courts. That may be to your advantage. But the question is whether he's the legal father? Is he on the birth certificate? Because if he is he has equal rights. Therefore, he can keep your son and you would have to be the one to go to court to recover custody.

smoothy · Feb 23, 2011, 05:58 AM

Keep in mind... when you seek advice... we base our advice on what you tell us. We don't know you, thus if you need accurate information... you have to take the time and give us all the information (changing or leaving out names for obvious reasons).

Keep in mind... you were saying some bad things about the father... and parents with such obvious anger issues do pass their opinions off the their kids. So while you think he's doing it... its clear you are probibly doing it as well. And an important perspective you have to remember. There are always two sides to every story. And when both sides are told by people that have attitudes... the reality is somewhere between those two perspectives.

And when two parents can't learn to be civil towards each other... its the kids who suffer.