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portage39 · Feb 22, 2011, 04:09 PM

Hey, My last girlfriend I was with for about 2 years broke up an now I'm with this new girl she's a lot better looking and kind to me and more generious with me but she has a bit of a past she had sex with 12 other guys and I don't know why but I can't seem to forget about it cause some of these guys are somewhat of old friends of mine and one guy I know would definitely try to have sex with her again but that's not the point I can't stop thinking about her expierences with her past boyfriends and sex buddies was like, maybe it was better then mine maybe she had more sensual feelings with them I'm not sure and what makes it even harder is that I barely even have a past I only had sex with the last girl I was with and only got drunk a few times I lived a pretty clean life but my girlfriend always seem to be into trouble in the past with drugs and alcohol..

talaniman · Feb 22, 2011, 05:10 PM

How old are you?

How long have you been with the new girl?

How long have you known her before you dated her?

How long had you been single, after the break up before you hooked up with the new girl?

Do you live together?

Do you party together?

Do you know her family and friends?

These are important facts to know to get to the bottom of your fears, and insecurities.

sharper11 · Feb 24, 2011, 10:57 AM

Answering Talaniman's questions would help a lot.

--Thinking back on my past GF's.. . There have been a few who had "shady" pasts. The thing is though, if you want to have any type of normal trusting relationship, you have to let it go. Insecurities and Trust issues are playing into this. So, to answer question, to let her past go, you have to be secure and trustworthy.

Is she they type of chick who would cheat on you? <----This seems to be where the insecurities and trust issues are. Because, if she isn't, than her past isn't a problem.

You knew going into the relationship that she hooked up with your friends, I assume. So what has changed?

glamorchiK · Mar 19, 2011, 11:31 AM

I have been in this situation. Thinking back on it. It DOES NOT matter what your significant other's past consists of unless it something YOU SIMPLY CANNOT come to terms with like if she killed someone. (just an example) Everyone has a past and it makes them who they are today. You can't judge her for living her life when you weren't together whether you agree with her lifestyle or not. It is going to kill you.. move on about it or move on completely without her. Just being frank.