[Nikitya]

I'm twenty one and have never really dated anyone. I feel pressure from my social network to find a boyfriend, but I also am putting pressure on myself to find someone and experience a real relationship. My dad makes a point of telling me how much I stay in and don't go out and party much.

I really like a guy and we flirt from time to time, but most goes over my head and I don't know how to get his attention, or anything really. I'm a bit of an introvert and he is an outgoing man who is very successful for his age. Maybe I am just expecting him to ask me out and perhaps in doing so.. I am getting my hopes up.

I don't know how to talk to him without being awkward, but whenever he speaks to me he seems calm, and is fine with the fact I am not the most outgoing girl. It's almost like he enjoys my rambles and awkwardness. His past girlfriends have been gorgeous women with outgoing personalities. I just don't see me mixing in.
I am not used to attention. Perhaps he is just being a friend and maybe I am reading too much into it.

I just don't know what to do! I am so lost in the world of relationships and dating. I feel as if I will make a fool of myself for ever thinking someone like him could like me.

[alanad123]

If you feel ready to date then go for it. Now to grab his attention just get a new profile pic, make yourself look good but natural. Continue with the flirting but keep it sensible. And if you meet him at somepoint just be yourself, DO NOT do anything crazy or he will think you are weird. Its awful when you like someone but they have no idea. I'm kind of going through something similar but I know how to handle it. So remember be yourself. And if he asks to meet you, make sure that you feel ready for dating. Hope I helped "GOOD LUCK"

[I wish]

No reason why you can't be the one taking the initiative and being the one asking him out. It's the 21st century. I would add that there are probably many reasons he hasn't asked you out yet. It could be because he's too shy, he's scared of rejection, he's not as interested in you as you are into him. Who knows?

What we do know is that you're into him, so why not be the one taking the iniative? Again, it's the 21st century, that's what the world of dating is today. If you're interested, then go for it!

The worst than can happen is that he's not interested and you just stay friends. Either way, you gained some experience, so it's still win/win for you.

[Homegirl 50]

Ask him out for coffee or lunch. The worse he can say is no.
Taking the first step is hard for everyone.

[talaniman]

I think the best way to approach this new world, and the people in it is slowly. There is no rush to do anything. If you have no clue about the dating scene, take small steps, and pay attention.

Start with the easy stuff by hanging out with friends, and being comfortable around people as you get familiar with them. Its all about having fun, and you don't have to be the most out going one in the crowd to enjoy yourself.

Group activities are a great way to circulate among like minded people and social clubs are always having interesting things to do. Th point is as you do more and enjoy it, your confidence will grow. When you have confidence in yourself, then you will attract people to you, and that's when the fun begins. Its all about knowing yourself, and what you like, and doing the things you like.

You may be pleasantly surprised that there are many good guys who are fun to be around, and the best way to learn about them, is to have guy friends, as pals, and buds. That's a good confidence builder , guy friends.

But all this takes some time and effort, and there is no need to be in a hurry and jump into something you have never done before, so take your time and enjoy the experience of exploring all your options, and opportunities, as you get use to having a good time finding out who you are, and what you like.

Go have some fun.

[Nikitya]

Thank you! That was very enlightening, I appreciate the support.

[Homegirl 50]

You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to talaniman again.