[nagbecca]

I don't know any more I mean I am not sure if I love her but I know I care

At any point we took a six month break and got back together I guess I should tell you guys what I am talking about

I want kids right I want a relationship were I can talk and she can talk

She never likes to talk to me I don't know if it cause of her ex mason or what but she was never able to communicate and if you don't count the six months we broke apart its been almost 5 years

For a little bit she was like hey I want kids with you... then like a week ago she goes I don't want kids anymore then a couple a days she would not talk to me at all I told her how I felt and it was like **** you I tried have sex with her it was not there at all so I stopped... I told her I am getting tired as a accuse and made my sleepy voice

The magic just isn't there I care for her but not sure if I love her any more I mean I am afraid to leave her cause she has health issues and don't want to let go of our memory's I am not happy any more

She tickles me knowing I don't like it I don't know she always wants attention but I give it to her in different ways all she wants to do is be playful sometimes I want to relax but its hard

So you just wondering what I should do

Last time I left her she was dramatized

I don't want to hurt her like that again

Ps sorry for spelling mistakes I was never good at spelling

[adviceishere]

Your spelling is fine :) well you can't stay with this girl just because of health issues its not fair to either of you, you could both be moving on to better things and staying together will stop this happening, of course you care for her, its been 5 years but that isn't enough, you will have to just talk it out and if breaking up for the best then try your best to at least stay mutual with each other.

[Jake2008]

Any relationship is built on communication. If you can't communicate and be honest with each other, there is nothing there to build a foundation on. And if there is no foundation built on communication and honesty, there is nothing solid, committed, or long term.

And I personally think it's a bad idea, under the circumstances you describe to be even considering having a baby with her. That should be long after the commitment is solid. Maybe even solid enough to marry her before you bring a life into this world.

If things have pretty much remained the same for five years, it's likely little will change. The nature of your relationship leaves you wondering, questioning, and unsure of a future with her. Not to mention you don't sound like you're in love, you sound like you're just used to each other.

My advise to you is to take a good long look at your own life, before you invest any more time in a relationship that doesn't sound like its going anywhere. What do you want in this life- marriage? Children? A stable, loving relationship? If you haven't had those things where you are now, it is time to be a little selfish, cut your losses, and look for a more compatible partner.

Otherwise, five years from now, you'll be in exactly the same spot.

[answerme_tender]

I agree that if there is no communication what do you think is going to help maintain a healthy relationship.

Ah,come on its been 5years, and you are not happy, but yet you want a baby!! Did I miss the part where you said something about loving a woman enough to get MARRIED and then start a FAMILY!! I hope no woman wants to have a child with you until your truly ready to make the commitment of MARRIAGE! Call me old fashion, but putting the cart before the horse only goes to prove that your unable to provide a true family atmosphere, with not only emotional but financial stablity---anyone can father a child, but it takes a real man to stick around and raise that child with true love!!

I guess you need to move on from this relationship. Get out and meet a lady who knows how to communicate but who also has enough pride/self respect to make sure you have what it takes to be a husband before she decides to have a family with you.

Take care

[talaniman]

If your staying because you don't feel she can handle a break up, guess again. You make things worse by staying, and your heart isn't in it.

But after 5 years, at least talk to her honestly about your feelings. Not just your desire for kids, but how you both act toward each other.

[mmresd]

You can't stay with someone because they have health issues. You need to think a little more about what you want and do it! If you are unhappy in your situation, then you need to press that exit button. Magic is gone, sex is no good, and you two dot seem to be enjoying each other's company anymore... There is no point in you two staying together. Move on and look for someone who wants to be with you and viceversa, instead of someone who you are with because you two are used to being with each other.

Good luck,

Javi