[thejam]

I wrote a question a while ago about some issues I had with my boyfriend and one of his good girl mates. They spent loads of time together, he lied to me about staying at her house (just once, and he is very regretful) but he told me that I was more important and that he would essentially reduce time with her since I was worried about it.

However, since then, rumours have started circulating that my boyfriend was having sex with her behind my back. These rumours appear to have started from the girl's friends. The girl's best friend even emailed me saying "Do not let this get back to me, but I am not going to lie to you. Your boyfriend has been sleeping with my best friend, I found out a few months ago. I'm her mate, but I don't approve of her behaviour so I am telling you because boys can be faggots, and your boyfriend is lying to you". The girl in question, my boyfriend, and my boyfriend's friends are all adamant that it never happened.

It is impossible for me to know the truth, because only my boyfriend and the girl can know. He never hid their friendship from me, he was never distant from me and showed no real signs of cheating. HELP!

(Me and my boyfriend are both 21, we have been going out for a year).

[talaniman]

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...se-545513.html

These are my questions to you.

Do you trust him?

Do you trust this girls friends?

Why would they lie on THEIR own friend?

Could they be trying to break you up?

Is he worth all this drama?

I have no way of knowing if he is cheating, you are there, we are not, but is all this drama helping this relationship at all? Present your evidence to him, get things in the open, and answer the questions I have asked, and your answer will appear.

[iliavejur]

To be honest with you there is no way to really find out unless you ask him and even then he will lie so there would be no reason why her friend would write you unless she knows something so have her help you have her record a conversation with the girl and stuff you know friends talk

[martinizing2]

I think you would be well served following Tal's advice.

Tal is a combination "brain surgeon /rocket scientist " of relationships...

Let us know how it works out if you would please.