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Taylor1313 · Feb 16, 2011, 12:05 PM

Life doesn't seem right anymore. My mom has a problem with everything I do. I have over 100 scars on my arms and my dad makes me go to my moms every other weekend. No one is on my side. I feel like a nobody off to the side that everyone hates and god doesn't know exists. I don't know what to do anymore. Every decision I make seems to be wrong and just leads me to another decision which I answer wrong again. Does anyone have some advice?

enoughofhim · Feb 16, 2011, 12:14 PM

I'm not a counselor but maybe you should try one of those online therapy or teen crisis online sessions. Sometimes when my daughter feels like she can't talk to anyone that's what she does and she said it helps.

Taylor1313 · Feb 16, 2011, 12:23 PM

Thanks

enoughofhim · Feb 16, 2011, 01:04 PM

I really hope that helped. How old are you? and what is it that you are expecting from your parents? Sometimes you have to express yourself to them. We as parents aren't always sure what's going on your guys lives. We can't always read between the lines. So if you haven't talked to your parents about how you feel about things they just might not understand what's going on in your life and they might not see that you are unhappy. On the other hand if you have tried to express your feelings to them and had a talk with them, then maybe what you guys need to do is look into family counseling. Who knows maybe it would help. Doesn't hurt to try, Right?

Taylor1313 · Feb 16, 2011, 01:25 PM

I'm 13 and I talk to my dad and "mommie" every night. I have to go to counseling every week.I just want my mom get that I'm still mad at her that I don't want to be around her right now because of everything she's done to me. She doesn't understand that I'm not a baby anymore but I am just a kid. My dad is trying to set up a meeting where me and my mom are alone with the counselor where I get to talk and my mom actually has to listen to what I say for once instead of yelling at me. And sometimes it does hurt to try.

joypulv · Feb 16, 2011, 01:52 PM

Life isn't fair, from being taken out of the warm womb to having to do homework and eat your veggies to being beaten, abused, raped, robbed, murdered. Life will never be fair. Some people will have it all, some never will, some will have it and lose it.
Life is not right or wrong either. It just is.
Cutting yourself may feel like you are turning emotional pain into physical pain and then bearing the scars for all the world to see how much they hurt you, but it doesn't work. People just get mad at you for making them feel guilty about it. Parents who divorce often have extra guilt when their children are having problems. Guilt often leads to anger, a backlash.

In another of your posts you mention your stepmother. Do you see both your birth and stepmother?

It isn't easy to express yourself when you are 13, don't we all know who have been through it.
Try writing down what hurts when it happens.

Fr_Chuck · Feb 16, 2011, 02:07 PM

Your dad makes you go most likely because there is a court order that says he has to, or he can go to jail.

And hurting yourself to get the attention is not gong to do anything but make it worst, it takes the spot light off the real issue, the relationship with your mom.

And actuallly since it appears your dad has custody, yourself harm could even lead your mom to try and get more custody or time with you, saying it is his fault this is happenng.

So you do your weekends, try to time to time have something that has to be done and live life till you are older and don't have to ever talk to her again

Taylor1313 · Feb 17, 2011, 02:50 PM

I don't mean to be rude but I Don't cut because I want attention.my doctor is the only person who seems to believe that. But I don't care if you believe it or not I don't cut to get attention. My mom won't try to get custody because she is unfit to care for me. And that's what I plan on doing but every time I do she calls it disrespecting her. Its not right for her to do that and then she ends up winning because I'm the kid and she's the "parent"

Taylor1313 · Feb 17, 2011, 02:55 PM

Yeah I see both of them. I don't cut to make people feel guilty I couldn't care less if they even see the scars. I cut myself to escape life for a few minutes and that just makes me want to continue to escape life. I've tried writing it down many times but that doesn't seem to relieve some of the issues toward myself because I allow for my life to be ran by someone who can't even run their own.my mom didn't care about how I felt when I got the divorce and she doesn't care now. She has never cared about me and in a way I don't care,but in a way I do.

enoughofhim · Feb 19, 2011, 11:16 AM

Just a question how is your mom unfit? Sometimes what people think seems unfit isn't unfit to the courts from my experience with my daughters father. And I'm sure your mother does care about you more than you think. Its just that us as adults have our own problems that we're dealing that we don't show or kids don't understand. Children don't come with instructions sometimes we need help understanding you kids. Maybe the whole idea your father has about you and your mother going to counseling will help her understand you and see how you feel.

Taylor1313 · Feb 20, 2011, 09:31 AM

She said she was unfit to take care of me and that's why my dad got custody.she has a lot of problems similar to mine and we get into a lot of fights because she thinks she understands me more because she has been in my place.but she just keeps being a butthole about it and starting fights with my stepmom.