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Sperto88 · Feb 16, 2011, 09:33 AM

So my ex-gf and I broke up 2 months ago due to constant fighting through skype, aim, Facebook, etc. I took money from her with permission but took extra just in case. I told her I had taken the money but she still wanted to do it herself. She was okay for the past month of December and January but now in February she has become some what bitter and does not want to talk any more. We constantly texted, messaged, and emailed. She had told me she was really confused with me and still loved me but she was seeing someone else. I had dumbly asked if she had slept with him and she did.. I offered marriage 1 month ago and even text her the ring when I was in the store. She told me her heart stopped when she saw it and was thrilled. She says she doesn't love me no more maybe because I kept pushing her away when I kept begging to get back. Will time really help heals these wounds I've created. I'm joining the Air Force in the summer so I can get a new start with my life and goals. I promised her that I would be there for her graduation and actually propose to her right then and there. I really do mean it.. I just want to know if I should just let it go and let time heal the wound and when it comes down to next year in 2012 Spring, that I should visit her during the graduation and live up to my promise...

joypulv · Feb 16, 2011, 09:41 AM

'took extra just in case' makes no sense.
'I told her I had taken the money but she still wanted to do it herself' makes no sense.
Anyway, time heals many wounds (no one was murdered, no child died, nothing tragic happened).
Time will heal your wounds because A you are young and B it's a typical relationship gone sour.
At your age making a promise for graduation in 2012 is not wise. I'm willing to put money on you not being interested by then, nor will she be.

Sperto88 · Feb 16, 2011, 09:48 AM

Well I meant that I had broken her trust on the fact that I lied to her when she asked me if I had taken a bit more and I said No then changed my answer when she confronted me a few days later. It was long distance so I always skyped her and it was hard on us both to actually communicate our feelings. I guess I was sort of a liar and she picked up the lies and was just tired of it.

answerme_tender · Feb 16, 2011, 10:57 AM

Sperto,

You are moving forward with your life. You will be so busy with being in the Air Force, that you won't even have time to think of her. I agree with Joypulv that time heals all wounds.

She will not be sitting around waiting for you, nor should you waste your off time that you get while in the Air Force wondering what or whom she is with.

Enjoy your freedom, here's a thought get out and date!! You need to keep occupied till you finally leave, but get out with friends.

Good luck--take care

talaniman · Feb 16, 2011, 11:59 AM

She has another guy, so take the hint and move on with your own life.

sorya · Feb 21, 2011, 09:58 AM

Focus on your own life if it was meant to be she will be there and if not she won't but the thing that people make the most mistakes on in relationships is stopping their lives for someone who doesn't want to be with them.

mmresd · Feb 23, 2011, 11:51 AM

She is now taken and off limits to you. Respect her decision and if she ever changes her mind, she knows how to reach you. But start healing and doing your own thing... Don't wait for her, because you will be disappointed if in a year or two you go to propose and she is holding someone's hand already... It will be horrible. Enjoy your time before you are kidnapped by the United States and don't waste the little free time that you have on thinking about someone who doesn't want you.

Good luck,

Javi