[countrygirl252]

Hey yall(: my name is trisha and I live in North Carolina. My boyfriend josh, and I have been dating for about 3 months and couldn't be happyier. There's only one problem in our relationship. He's 19 while I'm 15 almost 16. That's not the problem. Both my parents like him and are very happy for us. The problem is he has a son with his ex.I love his son very much and my parents didn't judge him because he already had a kid.

What I'm asking about is the other night I was at a friends and I was worried I might be pregnant because I missed my period. Her boyfriend bought my a pregnancy test. I took a good 4 or 5 before I realized I AM pregnant. I just broke down. But me and josh discussed starting a family after I graduate. So I'm not sad about the baby. Actually I'm excited. I'm just so worried that my mom will be ashamed and not love me anymore. I tried to talk to her about birth control but it seemed like she was never listening. I want to be close to her. I have a feeling this baby will either bring us closer or farther apart.

I'm not a slut I don't go sleeping around. I love my boyfriend and I've always been faithful. I love my baby already. There is Absolutely no way I'm not going to keep it.I just don't know what to do... please. Any edvice will help.

[Fr_Chuck]

I could preach about boyfriend, now on child 2 and if he told that child's mom some of the same things he is now telling you, but you are in LOVE and would not listen to it anyway.

So write back in about 1 year when boyfriend is off with another 15 year old who does not have a baby.

And what do you mean "you don't know what to do" you have no choice, you tell your mom, she will know soon anyway, from showing to morning sickness. And she needs to get you into the doctor to start getting checked.

[Emily94]

Hello,
First off I am 16, so no I am not some "old" person you don't want to listen to. I have many friends, many of which have babies. I'm not going to lecture you on condoms, birth control, bluh bluh bluh. What's done is done.

What you need to worry about right now is your education. Look into home schooling or correspondence (If you have them in your area), how your going to get money for the items a baby needs, and if you don't have health insurance how your going to pay for this pregnancy. Tell your mom first, admit you made a mistake, she'll probably be more than willing to help.. I'd rather shave my head than tell me dad I was pregnant... so no advice there.

Your priorities right now MUST be keeping yourself healthy so in return the baby is healthy, getting a good education how ever you can so in return your child isn't brought up in poverty, getting the required medical attention, and telling your parents. Try and take some parenting courses, I believe having a child under 18 is extremely dumb, your just learning who you are and now you have to put that on hold to raise a child, your "wild fun nights" of going to the bar and doing stupid things you'll regret are what being a teen is about (Yes, this is exactly what I believe), and now none of that is going to happen, are you sure your ready? Adoption is always an option, but I'm not going to push it, I know you want to keep it, but you have to look at all options.

Parenting courses will help you understand the basic needs of a newborn up to a teenager. They honestly do help (I went to them with my friend since the father wasn't in the picture and she felt embarrassed to go alone).

[ScottGem]

I'm curious about how old the mother of his other child was when he got her pregnant? I'm also curious where there was any prosecution as a result. Because if there was, he may be guilty of statutory rape.

You DO need to talk to your mother immediately. But I agree with Chuck. Come back in a year and tell us how happy you and your boyfriend are. You are with your boyfriend only 3 months and he has gotten you pregnant? How long before he got you to start having sex?