[anusundar]

Dear Friends,
I have been married to my cousin(in our culture it common), so I knew him from the day I was born.
He had a(girl)friend in his college days, who is really a good friend but somehow I never felt comfortable with her, so after marriage I told husband not to keep in touch with her.that girl got married even before us but was not in touch with my husband after her wedding, but all of sudden they have met in face book and sending message and my husband has phoned her once when I was not around. And one day he told that the girl & her husband needs some help regarding their profession(both are dentist, planning to write registration exam), I asked OK, but then I read messages in my husband's Facebook.they were exchanging messages for 3 months, in every message he has mentioned about me but still some words like(I miss you big time, closest soul) is putting me off. When I asked he told he didn't inform me because I might me upset & he is scared.I cried & BROUGHT THE WHOLE WORLD DOWN.can I trust him?

[answerme_tender]

To answer your question--NO.

I wouldn't trust any man that I am in a relationship with contacting his ex-girlfriend on Facebook and having conversations like how much he misses her or that she is the closest to his soul!! To me that would mean he is emotionally connected to her when he shouldn't be!!

You need to calmly sit down and explain how hurtful this is to you and how he would feel if it was you going behind his back and having contact with an ex-boyfriend and saying all those things to him instead of your husband!! Remember be calm, don't get nasty, that will only make you look worse in his eyes, be direct and most of all act self assured!!

Take care.

[robinad]

If you're that upset about it, then he needs to sever contact with this woman. I don't say that often because I don't think spouses should control who the other hang out with. But she is an ex, and he it's just not appropriate if you're feeling this bad about it.

[talaniman]

can i trust him?

Trust him to not contact his married ex girlfriend, and now friend?

Or trust him not to lie about what he is doing?

Or trust him to be faithful?

If he thought you could handle the truth, then he may not have had to lie, but if you can now, then he won't have to lie again, now does he?

Wonder if her husband got all bent out of shape as you did? Hmmm!