[bozzfactor]

I'm 20 years old 2nd year in college and somehow this girl I used to talk to freshmen year online/phone from a diff high school that I had somewhat a relationship with, she was a girl that was so perfect, I mean we could talk to each other online and phone for hours straight everyday and never get enough, and I was really into her, but somehow we stopped talking... well anways she calls me out of nowhere last weekend and we end up having a really good time talking to each other and I end up going over there later that night. That was the second time that I have ever seen her in person and I could definitely tell that we were both attracted to each other. So as the night went on we kept flirting with each other and making each other laugh and just having a good time. So I asked her if she is single turns out that she is/isn't dating a guy for a year and a half (her longest relationship). She explained that they heavent hung out in a month or 2, never talk on the phone or anything beside him sometimes sending her stupid text messages saying how can you still talk to me and stuff like that, and that they pretty much aren't dating. That didn't really bother me I was still playing it cool and we end up having a really good time and stayed up till 10 am just looking at each other kissing and she was saying stuff like I can't believe that you have been up here in the same college and I only just found you... and other stuff like I can't believe I am already falling for you and all our feelings basically came back it seemed like. So we just endup talking online and phone the following day didn't really hang out since we both had early classes. The next day I walked her to her dorm from class and we had a fun time just talking and we ended up kissing for a while cause we both didn't really want to leave each other company. She ends up coming over my house later that night I pop in a movie we end up having a really good time and stayed up really late again just looking at each other, kissing and making each other laugh... I remember her looking up at me as I am over her and just smiling and saying I do like you (sounded like she was unsure before since we only hung out oncebefore this). The next few days we just talked and still had a good time and I went over there and we laid down again together and just had a good time watching TV and just being ourselves, then she got this upset look in her eyes and she says for some reason I feel like I shouldn't be doing this... I feel like I am cheating on kenny(that guy I talked about earlier, he also goes to the same college as us) because we heavent officially broken up, so we get into the talk and I tell her you shouldn't be upset cause practically you guys are broken up unless you still have some feelings for him... she ends up saying that she has feelings for him still somewhat and every time she tries to bring up them 2 breaking up that he just ends up crying and has tried to kill himself before (and this girl is a very sensitve caring person and don't want to hurt anyone), so after this talk I end up cheering her up and we basically have another amazing night together fooling around and talking and all that stuff. Then the next day she ends up wakeing me up in the morning just to be silly and wanted to talk to me before she went to class, she ends up texting me nice things and had a nice day talking to each other, later that night I went over there to watch a movie with her and she just got into a bad mood again later on and I asked her what's wrong and she says that kenny sent her a text message but it says stuff like oh I hope you have a good time this weekend I miss you and stuff like that, so she says that now she's confused doesn't know what to do cause just as she thought it was done he sends her that, so she acted little weird towards me for a little bit wasn't being her usuall self but half hour later she ends up being all normal again with me and we have a good time kiss and all that(we still heavent had sex, just fooling around and few other things). Later that night she sends me a text message with a frown face and says that she don't know why but she felt sad I responded with you do what you got to do if you need space ill give you space to figure out what will happen and I just want you to know that ill be waiting for you... so the next couple of days she wouldn't talk to me online that much at all or phone and would talk differently then usual, and it's been 3 days like that and I don't know what to do know? Should I keep on acting like things are OK and keep being myself when I talk to her even though she responds different then what she used to or should I basically talk to her about it how she is being different towards me? She also send me a text message again don't remember exactly that she said but I'm not ready for this and just need some time and she said that she doesn't know what she wants... so I have no idea what to do? Keep on going after her... not talk to her, just try to ignore it and be myself when I do talk to her or anything... I really like this girl a lot and I don't want to mess things up help

[Copperhead6]

First of all, you are spending way too much time worrying about this. You've met the girl twice and you just wrote more words than I think it would actually take to tell my life story. You see rarely in a relationship do both people feel spontaneous chemistry right off the bat. You have got to slow play it and nurture it. If there's another dude in the picture and you are aggressive you are going to get nowhere fast. Take a chill pill, relax, and see what happens. If you keep stressing her and putting her on a pedestool you will surely have no chance! But good luck!

[talaniman]

Back off and give her space to get over her confusion about her ex.

[ryan erasmus]

Yeah dude leave her alone, back right off, she will wonder why and will come running, don't phone or text you will see it works, trust me I have messed up with 3 girls that I really liked, if you phone or text all the time they run, it takes tremendous willpower, if you back off they will worry and come running