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cuteblonde2468 · Feb 11, 2011, 08:41 PM

I have been working with a guy for a year. We both like each other and have always been friends. We could not be close friends for a long time because he was married. While he was married we only went out alone for drinks 2x. Now, we go out 2-3 times a week. We eat dinner, go bowling, all that stuff. He texts me all the time, gives me rides homes from work. The high school students at my school always thought we were together because they see the chemistry. He has been separated from his wife for 8 months, a moved out of their house 6 weeks ago. I refuse to ask him what is going to happen because we work so close together. When he has a few drinks he is more flirty, affectionate, all that. What should I do?

Cat1864 · Feb 11, 2011, 09:02 PM

I am going to start with cautioning you to remember that he is still married until the divorce is final. They may have been 'separated' for eight months, but he only moved out of the house six weeks ago. Getting involved with you would be sliding from one relationship into the next and he needs to take time to heal. He also needs time to work through the issues from his marriage and divorce so that he doesn't carry that baggage into the next relationship he gets into.

Give him time and space to heal. You do not want to be a rebound.

Fr_Chuck · Feb 11, 2011, 09:32 PM

Do you work at a high school ?

Do they have rules about employees dating ?

And he is still married, and not even separated that long at this point.

ziggysd · Feb 11, 2011, 09:51 PM

Run the **** away. He is separated from his wife - not divorced. Were you the other woman that caused the divorce? You said he is more affectionate when intoxicated - so are most men. I would not necessarily take that as a sign that you are becoming closer or that he is in any way ready for another relationship

vikiviki · Feb 11, 2011, 10:13 PM

I think you can accept his love.
But at first, you should remind him to solve their own emotional problems, which will be benefit for you and his wife.

talaniman · Feb 12, 2011, 04:31 PM

What makes you think he wants to jump from a failing marriage, and separation to a relationship with you? You want one thing, but he may not want what you want, but your own feelings have led you to be his emotional tampon, and a rebound to keep him from feeling totally alone.

This puts you in a position of being hurt, and humiliated later, as he gets his act together, and either goes back to his wife, or chooses another to spend time with.

You are clearly to carried away by your feelings for him, and have made yourself to available, and have thrown all caution, and common sense to the wind.

You better back up to a safer emotional distance, as its crazy to think he is ready for what you want right now. That's why you cannot be a couple, he just ain't ready, or isn't that into you because he may have OTHER things on his mind.