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Mintasaur · Feb 5, 2011, 10:59 PM

It all started in our competition. We were hanging out and sharing an Monster, and when we sat down for awards, my best friend made him hold my hand, and he absolutely freaked. He started avoiding me and when I'd talk to him, he'd quickly shut down the conversation and walk away to talk to this other girl. (Call me paranoid, but does he like her more than me?) I know for a fact he's had other relationships, but he's also told me he's never kissed anyone (fine by me, I haven't either) but his other relationships have been the kind without much contact. And since were in the same show choir, we have A LOT of contact. I see him everyday at school, on Tuesday for two hours for practice, and on some saturdays for seven hours or whole days! (Does this mean he may be "tired" of me? )

And honestly, I've never really had a relationship like this as well.

... I don't want this relationship to be over. I care about him a lot. I do not want to break up with him. So don't give me that.

Mostly I'm asking - What should I say? Or do? Everything was fine until the hand holding thing. We only recently started going out. And if your wondering, I'm 14. Don't give me the I'm to young for dating or you don't know what love is, because I've been through a lot and I know.

Thanks for your help :)

joypulv · Feb 5, 2011, 11:07 PM

Why would we tell you to break up? If anything it sounds like he's ready to break up with you because of your best friend. It was just very creepy of her to 'make' him hold your hand. Ugh. He may have not been ready. He may have planned it for some special time when no one else was around. He may be really angry that this bossy person was ordering him around, and that you didn't protest. I'd be mad too.

Mintasaur · Feb 5, 2011, 11:12 PM

I did protest. Our little "holding hands" didn't last very long and it was kind of freaking me out too. BTW, my friend isn't the only one pressuring this. I don't understand.

Edit - My dad told me to break up with him. And I really really wish I knew someway to fix this because I care for him a lot and I don't want to break up with him..

talaniman · Feb 5, 2011, 11:27 PM

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https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/...me-536981.html

You may like each other, and have an agreement to be b/f, and g/f, but neither of you knows what a relationship is about. You are class mates, and see each other at school a lot, but its hardly dating.

How about talk to the guy and seeing how he feels about it, and tell your friend to butt out. Guys hate others interfering in their business, and making them do things.

So do you have an agreement to be b/f and g/f??

joypulv · Feb 9, 2011, 05:07 PM

It is YOUR friend who started this, so it's your job to apologize to him.
There is one very boring, overused word that is key to all relationships: communication.
But it happens to be true.
And by that I don't mean idle chit chat; I mean heartfelt words that indicate that you will never let your friend run your life or any one you know again.

cdad · Feb 9, 2011, 07:33 PM

Originally Posted by joypulv

It is YOUR friend who started this, so it's your job to apologize to him.
There is one very boring, overused word that is key to all relationships: communication.
But it happens to be true.
And by that I don't mean idle chit chat; I mean heartfelt words that indicate that you will never let your friend run your life or any one you know again.

Since this is the teen boards you may need to clarify that this be done in person face to face and not done by texting.